@mind_yourboundaries: I have questions and so many thoughts. Like, was the ONLY reason they wanted her to pretend her twin didn’t exist because she was gay? That makes me want to puke and cry at the same time if that’s the case. My thought is that the granddaughter is seeing inconsistencies between the adults, and she wants to “clear the air,” meaning, let’s see who I can trust. The unfortunate thing is, if they do agree to meet up and they have no professional guidance, and it turns into another round of pointing fingers… only more pain and confusion will result. If I were to do it, I’d agree to it only if we had a neutral third party. A licensed professional who specializes in family estrangement. That way, we all have our own one-on-one session with the pro first, before we meet as a family, to get some good guidance. Then, during the meeting, the pro manages the room so there’s a chance for a productive, possibly healing conversation. Lastly, it’s kinda sad, this full-circle moment… Grandma’s told, in order to have a relationship with your granddaughter, you gotta do X. Now, 25 years later, the granddaughter has a similar stipulation: in order to have a relationship with me, you have to do X. Thoughts? #boundaries #estranged #grandparents #nocontact #reconciliation

Jess- Your Boundary Big Sister

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