Heather Fiedler :
I don’t think that is what this person is suggesting. You have to break patterns so it doesn’t continue in this cycle of the kids trashing the house and not being held accountable. Whether they get argumentative and angry or combative because you’re asking them to clean up their own mess, tough. Too bad, and every time I have to keep asking you, you’re gonna lose a privilege until you get the message. I didn’t make the mess as your mother, so I am certainly not going to allow you to disrespect and trash the house and then leave it for me or your dad to clean up, how does that make sense? Let them fight about it, eventually, they will get the message. It’s not easy to undo this behavior that has gone on for a very long time, but it can be done. It’s all learned behavior that has been tolerated over many years, and you have four kids I believe, and if they’re not held accountable to clean up after themselves with consequences, why wouldn’t they continue that behavior. As soon as they are done playing they need to clean it up. It shouldn’t wait until the next day or the day after, that’s how messes get out of hand. Why wouldn’t they continue to trash the house and throw plates on the floor and food wrappers on the floor, it’s just sending the wrong message if you go behind them and clean it up because it’s not going to change the behaviors long-term.
2026-09-29 03:31:53