@kat_braden: Don’t make them comfort you for hurting them

yugendran pather :

lol every man goes through this...

Mahdi Barkhordar :

I genuinely don’t think I’ve met a person as emotionally intelligent as you. Your feed has basically been free therapy for me

Gracie :

I’m sorry this is irrelevant but your hair is absolutely gorgeous and looks amazing on you

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does this apply to like ‘im sorry’ ‘its ok’ since they’d kinda be comforting u by saying its okay

srl1971 :

Spot on!!! Be well doll

hubert farnsworth :

Well said. We train kids to “apologize” cause that’s just “what you do.” But we don’t really teach them why or what it really means.

☆Mavuika☆ :

no because literally my ex bloody did this EVERY ARGUMENT he apologised (he mainly caused them for reasons i maybe started 1) then he would go "I've been struggling a lot with school and my mental health" URM EXUCSE ME like I wad doing my GCSEs when we was together.

Katzxcz :

Wait I think myself as a manipulator and only somtimes not all the time the person end up apologizing to me at the end dose that mean I’m unknowingly manipulative 🙁I mean I could my moms a manipulative narcissist so but I’m trying desperately not to be like her…

Rev :

"Group project"

charlesthegrey :

I just agree with them that they are a bad person. Then we can get past their pomp and circumstance, and figure out if they’re truly sorry or just going through the motions. But I’m a no nonsense person, until I’m not lol. But I do forgive pretty easily the first few times, and then the patterns keep popping up.

Ava💕 :

heavenly luminous 😁

John Doe :

Or just don’t put yourself in a position to need to apologize

Dan :

“Let’s ruffle some feathers” 😤🤘

dyz7f6t0bf3e :

where's Oliver?

sicvest :

I also like to see it this way: an apology isn’t necessary an admission that you were wrong, but it’s recognising that you value your relationship more than proving you are right

Rhonda Stern | Family Lawyer :

That’s a classic coercive control tactic. If they hurt your feelings, it’s not about them.

SkepticJxff🤍🦋 :

and NEVER say "I'm sorry you feel that way"

Magnus🇸🇪 :

Exactly the same thing as bringing something up that hurt you and the other person becomes sad because you held them accountable and now you have to say sorry because you hurt them.

MoonWear :

Tom :

[Icarus] :

sparrow :

wish i could send this to my mom 💀

oliviagrace_melody :

omg I've said this recently! when they hurt you and ask how they can fix it but most of the time there is no real fix, they just have to sit with it uncomfortably because if I feel shit about what you've said, you should definitely feel shitter then I feel!!

Mushie715 :

yea my gf does this and its kinda annoying so ive brought it up many of times but wverytime ive brought it up it turned into a argument of some kind then id end up having to comfort her in the end what do i do to help with this while maintaining a healthy relationship