@growwithkaela: When you are missing your dismissive avoidant and comparing your connection with others to your connection with them, just remember that you’re holding onto a version of them that they couldn’t sustain consistently.
These videos have been very eye-opening for me. My DA husband and I have decided to divorce after almost 7 years. I’ve recognized so much of what you’ve described in my marriage and I’m saddened I didn’t see this sooner. But it makes so much sense.
2026-10-01 04:18:55
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FruitFliesLikeAnAirplane :
Also, "You deserve better."
2026-09-29 01:20:42
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Jess | Wedding Photographer :
I know this logically but it still hurts so deeply to miss him this much.
2026-09-29 01:24:05
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maxshadow595 ❌️ :
then why did they bother?
2026-09-29 03:16:38
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User16789046700000 :
They are psychooooooos
2026-09-29 02:01:14
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ary :
but why did they act like that in the beginning if it wasn’t their true selves? so none of it was real?
2026-09-29 05:06:29
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frau_ruckt :
It’s like a GD script
2026-09-29 01:33:22
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underwaterkey :
Why can’t they maintain how they were? It’s so bizarre
2026-09-30 03:54:00
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Moonshinerocket :
Her exact words: "I'm sorry I can't be what you need right now." 😒
2026-09-29 23:33:00
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Captaincavegirrrl :
I’m the same convo he told me after the breakup he started dating someone new. He told me he doesn’t have the capacity for me. Apparently he has it for her. 🤷🏻♀️
2026-09-29 02:13:17
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Monica :
Why did he go to the effort in the first place? I don’t understand. Was I just a shiny object to him?
2026-09-30 23:04:28
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sarah_belle91 :
this is my favorite of his: "I self-sabotaged because I thought you were too good for me" after I caught him emotionally cheating 🙄
2026-09-29 11:02:50
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Mitchell Sullivan :
“I don’t deserve you”
2026-09-29 05:48:05
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doggybottompatter🐕 :
I remember when we were dating he said “you are taking care of so many people and no one is taking care of you”. Somehow I thought he meant that he would take care of me? Nah. He was just making an observation. He saw me as someone who would take care of him without asking for anything in return.
2026-09-29 19:26:05
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Kristin faith :
hurt so bad tho
2026-09-29 01:50:00
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Dw.in.the.’Sip :
Checks out. It’s like you wrote the speech.
2026-09-29 00:59:50
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Rob S :
She used to say EXACTLY this. It's spooky, like they're all reading from the same crib sheet.
2026-09-29 09:32:32
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experimental_cin :
Verbatim.
2026-09-29 00:59:33
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TheShannonRoseDiaries :
But he was perfect for 21 months and woke up one day and said they might not be able to factor me and my sons into his future should he potentially need to change jobs…he asked for a week to think things over it’s been 6 days with no contact from him 😭
2026-09-30 23:11:35
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Glen Lotz :
then why they go for someone else?
2026-09-29 12:04:10
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katcal_ :
So what do you do?
2026-09-30 00:24:04
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Seth :
She said what we had wasn’t sustainable.
2026-09-29 22:20:08
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Ashley Dawn :
Daggerrrr to the heart here
2026-09-29 03:28:16
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Dizzle Unfiltered :
Could have held my hand first 😅
2026-09-29 04:00:49
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