@bustuh: You’re not someone’s option! Here’s what to do instead of spiraling #spiral #anxiousattachment #emotionalintelligence #nervoussystemhealing

tomassubi :

i cant im breaking on a daily basis i fucking cant

ulnar deviator :

im really learning a lot thank you but as a single guy and i’m wondering if i engage with someone else i might forget the principles im learning here

Savy bear :

Love is too scary I just wanna be alone for now 😩

Queen Bella DDD :

Man this broke my heart 💔😭 because it’s soooo true!!! Can’t say that he didn’t have me feeling uncertain though. He had me confused lost and feeling and uncertain because he’d withdraw, he’d push away, he wasn’t emotionally available or present, he wasn’t vulnerable, he’d be distant, he wouldn’t talk to be for a day or two, heck sometimes more. So is that to say that “he still didn’t create that uncertainty,” it’s just me creating it based on how my nervous system responds?? Cause that has me a little iffy and lost ….. because I feel I wouldn’t feel uncertain if he’d actually show up and be present. If he’d just be emotionally available and present, and not the complete opposite of all of this 😔 …. And if I’m being honest, In the end, he chose to betray me after all - something I’ve been afraid of and lived in fear of him doing, he chose to turn around and do again. After not dealing with him for four years, I believed had faith and hoped he’d changed such ways. I thought to myself ok I believe people could change I don’t think he’d do that to me again, maybe he’s matured grew etc I believe people can change, but truth is part of me was still in fear like my nervous system was still on high alert when I’d see patterns and feared he could be still capable of doing so ….. all along I was made to feel like I ex tripping over thinking jealous insecure etc and I’m the end I was evidently right, he still betrayed me 💔 …… so I say all that to say, isn’t it that “feeling uncertain” isn’t just cause of our nervous system, but also because of how that person makes us feel too with how they are , react , what they do and how they go about things …. I’d feel he made me feel uncertain with his confusion he’d create by being unstable with me, not someone I can rely on, not being emotionally there, not being present, withdrawing, being distant, blaming me for it all etc

Itszlilly :

Wish I saw this yesterday before I crashed out 🥺🥺🥺

Seph :

Ambiguity is the root of all anxiousness

xaliu :

Most time avoidants creates that anxiety asking for reassurance doesn’t mean you have an anxious attachment style sometimes it just feels good to hear it and if your partner finds it difficult to reassure you rethink your decision because that’s the easiest answer a partners should give you

hejdhdj08 :

I understand all of this intellectually but applying it is so difficult

Rude :

I like how he breaks it down & explains it

Stacy Hayden Gonzalez :

This IS extremely helpful!!! Thank you!!

Adrián :

Damn… spot on

jace44157 :

I finally accepted he wasn’t going to change and finally chose myself almost two years ago. Thank GOD!!!

Dell :

Couldn’t have broken this down more accurately.

T W A N 🤙🏽 :

For the past two weeks now I’ve seen plenty of your videos and I really appreciate all the insight you’ve gave to us, brother. I’ve grown so much emotionally. 🙏🏽

Zabel | Chicago Creator :

Where have you been all this time? 🥺

Lara Vallese :

the most powerful explanation i' ve ever heard. you helped me so much. thank you

BoiiiStop1900 :

I respect it needed this months ago

A :

thank you

Officially_Kacie♎️ :

True

kaylaaa :

I needed this so bad

Mixed Barbie :

I’m working on it

joel mapp🇹🇹 :

Sirrrrrr😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

xaliu :

I’ve never been a fan on your take on anxious and avoidant attachment videos but this video I approve and I think you’re right see how detailed you are, makes it easy for anyone to understand

Kristina :

Thank you for this!!!

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