@thevalerieadams: What a secure woman does when he drops the effort ⤵️ A man putting in less effort can feel unnerving - especially when it seemed like things were going really well. If you have anxious dating patterns the tendency is to look at what YOU possibly did wrong or focus on WHY he’s being distant/putting in less effort. It’s not bad to wonder these things - it’s about upgrading the QUALITY of questions you are asking yourself. The secure woman chooses to turn the questions back on herself. 💎Is this aligned for her? 💎Is this a pattern of his that will lead to her feeling unsafe? 💎Is this how she wants her future partner to show up if they were in a relationship? His level of effort isn’t a reflection of YOUR value or what you deserve…. But it’s absolutely the time to reflect about if this works for you 🪞💯 If you want to learn the tools to date like a secure woman and attract a healthy relationship, that’s what I teach you inside of SECURELY CHOSEN 🩷 (Join in my profile) . . . #dating #datingadvice #redflags #datingtips #datingadviceforwomen