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Dorian/Malice/Ghost :
Another thing is change in appearance. If you’re flamboyant alt friend starts wearing jeans and t-shirts and stops dying their hair, maybe check in with them, it could be they’re just sick of dressing to the 9s all the time, but it could be something deeper. Speaking as the flamboyant alt friend who had to stop dressing that way all the time due to chronic illness and had to keep it to just alt & queer events but then got super depressed and didn’t even dress up for those anymore. Felt like the signs were there but no one noticed them and didn’t want to bring up my self-destructive thoughts at the club because it didn’t feel appropriate. Wanted to ask for help but didn’t know how
2026-10-07 18:28:22
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Bella :
My coworker’s husband died by suicide last week. They were in the midst of a divorce. He had a very public facing job. His job posted a very cryptic “he is unavailable, this person is standing in for him in the meantime” Facebook message. We were told he turned in his letter of resignation at lunch and drove off. When my co worker said “but we just had the best weekend” I knew. He was found a few hours later. “But he was such a happy guy” yup, he was really good at masking! I hope he has peace now.
2026-10-01 00:36:30
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Jenika :
I lost my fiancé in June of 2019. The hardest part was feeling like I could have done more to make him stay, but we were having such a great time. I didn't even expect it.
2026-10-01 01:36:55
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Earned Wellness :
These are great points. Sometimes the good mood coincides with a medication adjustment where the person was too depressed to take any action and the boost in mode allows them to have the energy to follow through.
2026-10-01 00:10:43
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Perry :
As a fellow therapist, one other thing I’ll add is agitation—because if someone is having a mixed episode this often occurs and mixed episodes can be just enough energy + distress to take that final awful step 😞
2026-10-01 03:31:05
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nicki.etc :
I love how you refer to it as a “shameful event”. You put a name to a pattern I’ve noticed but never been able to describe, and I hope you get this lingo more widespread!
2026-10-01 03:14:51
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BumbleBriar :
Yes! I started my career in mental health working as a 988 call taker while I was still in grad school, and now as a licensed clinician, I still maintain that the best thing a support person can do is directly say to someone “I’m concerned about you because of x thing, are you thinking of harming yourself?”
2026-10-01 15:17:38
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rrrrrrrg :
Since I decided I feel so much better
2026-10-04 18:02:51
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Deanna :
not a therapist, but a survivor currently experiencing SI(zero worries my providers are aware and I'm set for voluntary admission Friday AM) - directly asking about plans often feels like persecution to us suffering. it's my lived experience to not dance around it but rather dig deep into the issues that may be triggering the SI before directly asking about it. ofc ask, but bad idea to do it early on in conversation.
2026-10-01 04:04:05
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sinncope :
My fiance was about to get the breathalyzer taken out of his car, had paid off all of his debt to the courts, we had just reconciled after a big break, had a baby that was 2.5 years old. He was sober. And relapsed, and then ended up going through psychosis. And he had a backup plan too… He took pills.. a lot.. and then sh*t himself after. He broke both phones beforehand. I was trying to teach him the whole time. I’ll never forget watching them carry him past me in that black bag.
2026-10-01 12:24:54
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Caroline pucci :
and what if i told you my "friends" shamed me after seeing me have a breakdown (to be clear just like.... shutting down and crying really hard for a couple hours) and told me they need to "protect their children from me" 🥰 selfishly wanting to see my own kids grow up is the only thing that stopped me bc i was already suicidal.
2026-10-01 04:41:46
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💎🔮Opal💜🫂 (they/he)▪️◻️💛 :
people focus too much on giving away belongings and miss the more quiet cleaning/organizing
2026-10-01 14:54:51
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ahuman.kitkat :
Ya the shame event in future thats a thing
2026-10-01 06:25:56
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tilly_not_matilda :
I just lie when they ask if I have plans. I’ve been sick for 8 years. Of course I have plans.
2026-10-02 00:51:48
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🖤Trouble555🖤 :
is that a cavalier? 🐶
2026-10-01 03:43:44
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FBM :
these are all nice to raise awareness about but the sad thing is nobody is looking for signs in us because nobody cares until its too late. nobody checks on me nobody asks how i am because they dont care and they never will.
2026-10-01 08:19:48
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Coyote 🪶🏳️⚧️ :
Tragically, the most alarming red flag phrase I can say is “everything’s gonna be okay” The happier I seem when I say that, the greater and nearer the danger is 🙃
2026-10-01 04:35:21
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Jane Doe 🤍 :
We hide it so we don’t have to have the conversation 😬
2026-10-01 02:36:53
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SnugglePossum :
My grandfather was a pretty miserable person. The day he took his life I made the comment that he was in the best mood I had ever seen him. After I got the call, it all made sense. He had a very detailed plan.
2026-10-01 01:11:35
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nen :
oh so heavy on shame. mine is dropping out of school, no longer premed. been lying bout it 4 a year, n actively S bc of it. then recently i decided i would stay n take classes in January n try to be happy w changing paths. planned to talk to an advisor this week until i got an email yesterday that i could no longer enroll in classes bc its been a year. Technically yes its fixable but I felt everything come back to me. Shame and guilt. esp as a child of immigrants. It’s suffocating
2026-10-01 23:07:45
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