@dr_mikem: Pause for a second. This one matters. I keep coming back to a story in the news not because of the crime itself, but because of something underneath it. A group chat. So many boys in it. And how few of them said anything. It raises a question I can’t stop sitting with: what makes a good kid stay silent? Is it fear? Fear of not fitting in, of not being liked, of falling out of the group? And here’s the harder question for us as parents: are we so focused on raising boys who achieve, who get the grades, the spots at the elite schools, the wins, that we forget to raise boys who are kind? Who speak up? Who do the right thing when it costs them something? Character isn’t a byproduct of achievement. It’s built on purpose, in a million small moments when we praise kindness the way we praise a good report card. When we ask “were you kind today?” as often as “how did you do?” I definitely don’t have all the answers here. But I think it’s a conversation worth having. What do you think makes a kid brave enough to speak up? I’d really love to hear your thoughts below.

Dr. Mike Milobsky

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Thursday 01 October 2026 11:05:37 GMT