@paton.renovations: Absolutely no hate to anyone that does things differently, as a parent you know your child & different things work best for other children. But this is what we do🤍 #controversial #parenting #screentime #mumsoftiktok #mumtok

Dena Esquire :

Pls rethink screen time. It doesn’t have to be an iPad or phone, but my baby is almost one and can imitate gross motor moves because of Ms Rachel and Super Simple Songs. Plus Teletubbies taught her how to say bye bye. Mind you, I was right next to her engaging the the songs with her (I didn’t just leave her alone) just limit the screen time. She also has two playpen full of toys that has gross and fine motor activities. Just fine the balance

Woodgirls :

This was how we set out with baby number one. Baby number two arrived and many of these ways slipped 😂🙈

S T E F F ✨ :

I’m giggling at your restaurant one. I was under this impression too. Although we don’t give him an iPad / phone, we take books, cars etc. he will sit for a maximum of around 30 seconds then he’s off climbing and running around 🤣🤣 he’s just turned two and it’s wild although we will continue to take him out for meals but to more family friendly places

MarieGGtherealG :

You just need to wait, I was the perfect mom BEFORE I BECAME A MOM hahaha

Jade Stone 💋 :

Just because a child has an iPad at the table when out for food doesn’t mean they don’t have table manners because I have two children with SEN and both have an iPad & headphones as if not we wouldn’t be able to go out as a family as it would be too loud and too overwhelming for them both so the distraction from their surroundings & the noice so we as a family can go out to eat I’ll do 10 times over they have the best manners & maybe be up & down off their seats but there not running feral or been rude or ill mannered! Life’s different for every household what doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean doesn’t for another family xx

Berol_ Williams :) :

I didn’t like my girls going out on sleepovers. I think I started to ease up on it once they were 12ish. But they always had a phone, and if the vibes were off all they had to do was ring my phone for 2 seconds and I’d be up and out that door. Also, we hosted the sleepover parties, etc. I think my kids liked that our house was ‘the house’

JadeLowman :

Every single one of these is how I parent my daughter🤍

the blueprint :

👏👏👏👏👏 you are a fantastic oatemt fir all of these. co slept w both my biys 17 and 9 and there are so many benefits. Husband died in 2021 I woke up to him dead in bed next to me from covid he was only 44..needless to say my now 9 yr old is still in my bed 99% of the time and my 17 yr old still come in occasionally... rightfully so. Good thing I have a custom bed that's 2 king size beds put Together. We have sleep overs too.

mendm123 🇨🇦 :

Absolutely 💯 agree. I'm not a mother that says my children never misbehaved in restaurants and we didn't have electronics back then. When they didn't behave after mannerly behaviours were spoken about the first time or 2 we simply .... left. That was all it took. A meal shared over conversation or even little words spoken is a great intimate bond. Even now we have no TV/cell at the table and our daughter aged 28 tells me most of her friends' families do not eat together 💔

Violetta :

yes, yes and yes to all💯

LeaPea :

Not controversial as most people agree (as do i) but before my first i said the same. everyone does but things will slip because you face new challenges as they grow. Big thoughts now so soon into your parenthood is predictable but don't be hard on yourself when things slip. I say practice what you preach, if you are on your phones or watch the TV then expect children to want the same. Get them off social media and oversharing. Same goes for food choices. If you are both completely sugar and process free then your ideas now will stick. Breastfeed for as long as possible. We are process free but allow treats. Have a look at the consequences of restricting children later in school age, they can become very obsessive and secretive its proven when they haven't been allowed things. I know a child that is the same with screen time, as ours are, he will go round for a play date and not play because the other household has the TV on and cannot take his eyes off it. It's a shame. So good on you having ideas now but don't be too hard on yourself when they slip because if all us first time parents could go back and tell ourselves the same we would never believe it.

Jess :

My big kids are 10 and 8 years old. We did no screen time before 2, and no iPads at all until a couple of years ago, and those are only used at home. Our third baby is 3 months old and we will be doing the same for her. Definitely possible ❤️

krinniecrumble :

Yes!!!!! We did no screen time until 2 and we’ve never had iPads and never will. I could write a book on how good of a decision it was. We have lovely, polite, engaged and patient kids. They’re 12 & 14 now and our screen time stance and no CIO are the two things I look back on and am really grateful we stuck to.

AskAnu :

Whole foods only and no sugar!!! Stick to your guns!!! I have 0 regrets and I doubt I ever will people will tel you ‘just one day won’t hurt’ ‘you no fun’ but you are the best person to advocate for healthy eating and a healthy lifestyle xx

Hayley🤱❤️ :

Katie :

Totally agree with them all! Especially screen time x

Lisa Bimson :

Please don’t think that children who have iPads in restaurants are ill mannered or don’t know how to behave. My lovely boy is 7 and he will be seen with his headphones and iPad when we go out for meals as a family of 6. He is autistic and this is how he copes with being out of the house. The noise, lights and crowds are just too much for him. So if I can help him by allowing him to be in his own little “safe space” then that’s just how it has to be. I mean no hate at all, it’s just really upsetting to think that people are judging you as a parent xx

AlisonG :

I always find it ironic with the 'no sleep overs'. So people can trust you with their children but you won't trust them with yours?

al.9875 :

Love this and no hate at all but on the food thing, I’m 99% sure you’ll scrap that after 1, toddler hood will hit you hard and you’ll rely on snacks for survival and sugar as your best bribery, I doubt there is any mum that exist can disagree, but good luck