Kina Wolfenstein
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Eden :
I’ve never had someone accurately describe my situation until hearing number 3. I’ve always felt like I could never say it was emotional neglect because it was warm and I received lots of love but there was no room for being not ok I always just described it as having a great mother but not a great mom.
2026-10-03 23:18:00
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Hank B :
My ex is an avoidant, I know it came from her childhood, but at some point you are responsible for your own life, and can't blame childhood neglect in how you act in old age
2026-10-04 00:11:20
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Bethany :
As a therapist myself, I still struggle that I grew up in a family that literally had all 3 of these.
2026-10-03 23:10:37
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the_2econd :
my parents would tell me to "stop crying" whenever i was upset.
2026-10-04 12:52:16
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exuberon :
number 3. the guilt i always felt when i wished my mom was different was because she was nice and i wasnt afraid of her or anything. but she definitely wasnt giving me what i needed. if i had a problem, the most id get was lame encouragement that i could fix or bear whatever it was. she never helped me. and she was so proud of me which i hated because it felt like none of that was because of her help.
2026-10-04 00:48:59
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Amy L :
My parents were too tired to parent a lot of the time and my sister resented having to look after me so I felt alone to figure out my emotions and life a lot of the time and when I did try to speak up it was often mocked or ignored so I learned to internalize it. But on the outside, we looked like a close knit family.
2026-10-04 02:10:24
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Mike 🇳🇿 :
And in the third variety in particular, that child grows up thinking they had parents who did a great job with what they had, and there's no reason for (me) to feel completely disillusioned with their love. I was loved, when I kept my head down, managed Dad's anger and Mum's anxiety effectively, succeeded at school, and engaged in the interests that were my parents'. It took a lot of sustained effort as an adult to figure out who I am outside of my family.
2026-10-03 23:24:02
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Lauryn :
jesus christ why was my childhood somehow a combo of all 3 😭
2026-10-03 23:28:49
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Shana Bur :
#1 and 3 for me. The medical neglect it came with is also just *chefs kiss*
2026-10-03 23:53:57
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Everlost :
All three +autism. I became a stone. Too terrified to speak to anyone until I had observed enough of them to give them the exact mask they needed to make them happy. No emotions, no opinions, no personality.
2026-10-04 00:26:13
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Edgar Jones :
What about 1+2 😅 my mom was emotionally distant. But the whole family was walking on eggshells because she'd periodically explode at my father. I remember my childhood was just waiting for her to scream at my father. Who was meek and didn't really pay attention to us kids. So all I remember was constant fear.
2026-10-04 08:08:22
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Bovril :
1. Very loving family but a mom and older sibling with OCD. I was not allowed to have negative experiences or feelings because it would trigger their anxiety over my safety
2026-10-04 15:36:35
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KristinMessinger :
Camp 2 with bonus of abuse and occasional outbursts from pop
2026-10-05 02:12:16
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nabi :
#1 and #3 parents with #2 grandparents
2026-10-04 20:48:26
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Floofwrangler :
#3 for me with a side of mocking my tears, my rage and my desperation to be heard and validated.
2026-10-04 21:25:03
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Samara :
I almost scrolled cos I didn't identify but then you got to number 3 .... ooof, that was a gut punch
2026-10-05 00:01:30
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Grace Coldwater :
It took me until I was 35 to realize how bad my emotional neglect was because I'm also in camp 3.
2026-10-04 23:58:25
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Lil_yana789 :
Clocked
2026-10-04 18:05:43
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Molly :
It is really hard to come to terms being in a family 3 because it’s hard to say my parents are bad. They care about me, the do all this outer stuff for me, but during emotional difficulties they shutdown or turn hostile. I learned my needs were to much always.
2026-10-04 03:32:47
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h3mril :
The way my dad shuts down the moment you mention anything emotional 🫠 like you can literally see his panic to the point where it feels like you’re cornering a terrified animal that’s accidentally come into your house
2026-10-04 10:49:37
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emionidae :
3rd one hit like a punch to the gut 😭 my mom loved me so much but I was undiagnosed autistic and she was a working single mother trying to keep a roof over our heads. she had so much on her plate and I had such giant feelings all the time. it was a rough mix and thankfully we worked through it but the old pattern sometimes reemerges. its nice to have that feeling acknowledged, sometimes it feels wrong to claim I was neglected when I know she was doing her best
2026-10-04 02:32:15
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eep :
hearing #3 validates me so much.
2026-10-04 00:39:13
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Madison Claire :
1 was the bad days, 2 was what I considered a good day (not saying it was good, but just what I thought a good day was growing up), and 3 was the public image/mask they wanted to project when they could. There is others, but I definitely noticed all of those playing out at different times/settings. Number 1 though I think was the main constant that I was personally experiencing the most. (Because most days were bad days for me.)
2026-10-04 00:16:36
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Like Royalty 👑 :
Bingo! Somehow I had all three mixed into one
2026-10-03 23:59:36
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Jessie🍉 :
I think I spent a lot of my childhood trying to regulate an alcoholic father, but I don’t really remember anything. But it makes sense
2026-10-04 03:30:04
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