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red/fable :
my issue with the "it's not the right time" narrative that some people are running with is that there is always a story of a woman being SA'd in the news (because it's a huge problem) so there will never be a "right time" for a man to speak up, according to them.
2026-10-05 19:17:00
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autumatics :
Boys being SAd also forms their idea of how consent worka and if we don't talk to boys about how consent applies to thwy themselves how can they understand how to apply it to others?
2026-10-06 00:09:06
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Demetrius fields :
Thank you!
2026-10-06 14:38:44
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Elizabeth (Noah's Version) :
I also took part of his point to be "it happens to men all the time and they are told it doesnt matter so they do it to other people and dont get that its SA so it perpetuates the cycle"
2026-10-05 19:39:50
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milo :
there is never a good time for this discussion we do need to have it
2026-10-05 20:15:27
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Jakobbie :
The stats say that its 1:4 women and 1:6 men....reported. If you rhink women under report whewwwww chilie do I have news for you. IMHO the only way out of this is for all of to learn to value the humanity in ALL of us.
2026-10-05 21:31:57
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4732BeesInATrenchcoat :
Why does there need to be a right time? these conversations are going to be uncomfortable, gotta happen still
2026-10-06 10:00:06
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theyselldeathknells :
You scared me for a minute. I'm also taking issue with all the "can you imagine how safe a boy would be in a sorority?!" content. As though we don't all know at least a few guys who have told us stories of how they've been hurt by women without them even realizing that it was assault.
2026-10-05 18:41:11
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aphantasia 🤍🦋 :
My only critique is that his verbiage sounds like he is saying that men SA others because they've been SA'd, and that sort of rhetoric is harmful to victims. However, I think in his follow up he did a good job of clarifying that it is about how creating and normalizing violence in our culture perpetuates the cycle, not about individual people necessarily. I'm happy that he felt comfortable sharing his experiences, and so angry that people have treated him like shit for it. I have yet to see a single woman be berated for sharing her sexual assault experiences while there is a big SA story on the news. Telling a man who is doing the same thing that his timing is inappropriate just feels like a way to ignore male victims without having to outright admit that's what they're doing. Nobody is doing the world any favors by dismissing victims who have been brave enough to open up about their experiences, regardless of gender.
2026-10-05 19:32:22
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lex :
the amount of stories I hear from other dudes about being touched by older women is crazy
2026-10-06 12:54:43
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Meg (they/them/dude) :
The fact that people do not see how these experiences contribute to the current culture is maddening.
2026-10-05 18:45:54
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jordan :
I have multiple experiences but if I were to bring it up.. “🤣you just must be gay”
2026-10-10 19:14:29
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L🌺 :
My only issue was one line he said that essentially sounded like “men get SA’d so it makes sense that they then SA someone to take control” and while yes that could be a component, it read like an excuse and it’s not especially when (as you said) women also experience the things he mentioned but women SA others significantly less than men. I think he did have excellent points and I hope it did reach men so that can understand deeper. I just think there was a better delivery
2026-10-05 19:01:07
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Aspen :
I genuinely think this is such an important thing to talk about, ESPECIALLY in the context of all the other conversations happening. Because how many men think certain things aren't SA because when it happened to them all the people in their lives acted like it was actually something to be proud of?
2026-10-05 19:03:23
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Gimble HellJumper :
The question then becomes, if it's not the right time now, when will it be? When are WE allowed to speak?
2026-10-05 21:49:43
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Squirrel :
People tend to look at me like I’m crazy because I kept saying no and she kept going anyways on multiple occasions. Yet if I had talked about it, most people would tell me to stop complaining. It even took me years to realize how many times I’d been assaulted. Half the time, we really don’t realize that it’s actually happened until way later on down the line.
2026-10-05 19:19:11
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Theta :
It gets back to that thing that sex ed lowers the rate of SA. We know that. And in a very real sense, telling the demographic that the thing that’s SA isn’t SA kinda… definitively undermines sex ed.
2026-10-05 19:56:58
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NorthSouth :
it hasn't been the right time for, uhh, hmm, how long have I been alive?
2026-10-06 02:40:50
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Patton_P3nding :
I also take his video as a way of him saying that we really ALL need to band together to get rid of this problem, cuz it is a problem
2026-10-05 22:35:07
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Bunny :
I just think it's was poorly worded in a time that is very highly charged I understood his point but it's just things are a lot RN
2026-10-05 18:30:42
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kevinc0815 :
If the timing is wrong then when is the right time because everyone is always talking about female victims
2026-10-05 23:09:06
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Mr. Wizard :
I don't get why people don't understand this. it's not that hard. SA and DV and violence in general... not a gendered issue. until we accept that... nothing gets better
2026-10-06 02:06:17
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Yaboygk :
People lose their mind when I say the number of SA/rape in males and females is closer than people think.
2026-10-06 02:36:50
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splatteredpaintstudios :
I also think its like hey not that it is right but men are basically groomed into thinking these behaviors are ok. Basically, the issues start when we are all young.
2026-10-06 11:55:48
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Soberirishman :
I’ve tried to tell my story about how I was sa’d when I was 12 by a 19 yr old girl who was supposed to babysit me at the time and I’ve had a lot of ppl try to deny what happened to me (mostly women) bc the perpetrator was a woman.
2026-10-05 21:50:00
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