Fa'izah 🌹 :
Let me say this: it’s not really a matter of igberaga or patience.
You will see a lady who is educated, still in school, and in a relationship with a mechanic for like one and a half years. Anytime the guy didn’t have much on him, this girl would even take foodstuffs from her house to his house just to make sure he had something to eat. She didn’t expect anything from him or do it because of what she would get in return; she genuinely loved, cared for and supported him.
Along the line, the guy said he was no longer interested after he asked the lady to get pregnant for him before he travelled out of the country. Meanwhile, this particular guy didn’t even have a passport, talk less of a ticket. The lady refused because she was still in school and didn’t want to get pregnant at that point in her life. And honestly, I don't think that makes her a bad woman or means she didn't love him.
She later dated another guy whom she didn’t stress herself for, love as deeply, respect, or care for the same way. That guy also became nonchalant, and eventually, the relationship ended.
Now, after months or even a year, both men are back, begging this same lady to give them another chance.
So what exactly can we say about this? Personally, I believe that sometimes, men don't really appreciate a true woman who is willing to genuinely sacrifice, support and do things for them when they have nothing. They may take her love and efforts for granted because they know she will always be there. It’s often when she stops giving and walks away that they begin to realise what they actually had. But at the same time, I don't think a woman should stop being caring or supportive. She just needs to know who deserves that kind of love and sacrifice, because doing everything for a man doesn't automatically mean he will value you.
2026-10-07 19:59:16