@lisasonni: When an abusive man says a woman is “crying to manipulate him,” ask what that belief allows him to avoid. If her pain is always dismissed as manipulation, he never has to empathize, reflect, or take accountability. Her emotions are acceptable when they make him comfortable. But the moment her anger, sadness, or tears challenge his behavior, suddenly she’s “playing the victim.” If tears were such a powerful manipulation tactic, why do so many women end up hiding their tears from the person abusing them? #EmotionalAbuse #CoerciveControl #Accountability
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Tuesday 06 October 2026 21:40:22 GMT
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Queening365 :
It's also because they cry to manipulate you.
So they think that's what you are doing
2026-10-07 12:55:40
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cnolastname :
A lot of guys will cry to manipulate you so he sees a woman crying is manipulating.
2026-10-07 13:25:12
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Meredith :
my dad used to accuse me of that when I was young. now he wonders why I don't want to talk in his old age.
2026-10-07 12:20:11
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Zainab :
He would make fun and bully me when I cried. Mind you, I rarely cried and actually he’s the one that would cry all the time, and I would still comfort him when he cried.
2026-10-06 23:28:14
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Raja Norkhairani :
Why do men hate us
2026-10-07 02:09:05
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RBH :
I know its not healthy but thats the reason why i stoped crying in front of men. Im tired to feel that im crazy for being upset with the disrespect and that they gaslight me after that. The split second u see in their eye the clock out when they see tears. It breaks my heart to be crying and upset and what they do is just not believing me. When im upset and near crying im just leaving and saying to myself they are not worth it.
2026-10-08 12:22:59
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Medulla Oblongata :
I was put on a 72 hour hold in a small psych unit. I needed that. Once I got out, I only had my then husband, so he came and took me home. He openly stated that he thought I was doing it (the night I finally broke down) to piss him off.
My current bf is following the same script. As soon as he feels I "discarded" him, a huge fight ensues. I sob my eyes out, he thinks I do it to manipulate him..Wasn't like that in the beginning.
This ain't my first rodeo, second or even third, sadly. But I see it...
2026-10-07 13:05:22
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Queen Lisa :
When man said something bad about woman
Its giant red flag
2026-10-07 09:55:58
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Revannya :
He’d call me a “cry baby”.
2026-10-07 16:27:48
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thatgypsyone :
I was supposed to control my depression or tears but his abuse had an excuse of ‘anger issues’
2026-10-07 02:20:32
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Dan García 🏳️🌈 :
My ex-husband had the same mentality about feelings his were valid mine were always performative
2026-10-07 21:16:04
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𝓗𝓸𝓵𝓵𝔂 𝓕𝓸𝓷𝓽𝓪𝓲𝓷𝓮 ꨄ︎ :
My ex believed this too, despite me hating to cry in front of anyone. I cried when my cat died, somehow that was manipulation. What am I trying to manipulate him for, empathy? It wasn't even me crying at him, I was just crying for my own sorrow.
2026-10-10 05:45:08
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BadKarma2020 :
You are correct! My ex did this and it was grozs
2026-10-07 07:01:46
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natlajune.com :
It’s just simple protection. He uses his emotions to manipulate her, so he naturally assumes that that’s what she’s doing too
2026-10-07 22:31:38
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avocadodreams :
I used to go in the shower to cry. If he broke in the bathroom, which he often did, it would disguise the crying
2026-10-07 10:51:52
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Marie :
The first and last time I cried in front of him, he told me I was ugly when I cried. 🤷♀️
2026-10-07 00:50:59
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Spock-&-mara :
he decided my tears were manipulations and didn't care, but other women and his mother he said he was upset by it
2026-10-07 05:19:53
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Awakened by Karla Maree 💜✨ :
This!!! I hide in my wardrobe.. 🙈
2026-10-07 02:34:16
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motherhac :
this is so true. I cry when im scared, angry, and frustrated. abusive people think my emotions are a " burden to the family " - stop being the victim they often say-
2026-10-07 20:08:02
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Em :
My husband dried up my tears and had to deal with my silence! Also, lived scared to death I would kill him. 😂😂😂😂
2026-10-07 21:21:57
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Auri :
One of my male bosses literally said to my face to stop trying to look weak on purpose. I was like: what?
2026-10-16 15:01:12
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Hemi ヘミゼニ :
exactly
2026-10-08 16:30:30
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SASSICoach Christine™ :
When someone learns to hide their tears because expressing pain only brings more blame, that's a pattern worth questioning. Are your feelings being heard, or are they constantly being used against you? No one should have to silence their emotions just to feel safe in a relationship. That's not love. That's emotional abuse. 💜
2026-10-18 00:08:01
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Carmen :
I thought this about my ex, yes manipulation. Why cry after hit somebody , treat bad then when they want to leave cry like crocodile? I know This fake.
2026-10-07 06:25:50
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Flying Spaghetti Monster 👾 :
Mine would say shit like "I'm just the worst person ever" 🙄
2026-10-07 05:04:43
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