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Introblurt :

I haven’t spoken to my sister is 7 years. And I won’t x

syd :

When I got pregnant with my daughter, my sister was very cold and shrill. She held no excitement for me. When we were planning the gender reveal, we got into a fight regarding her bringing her new boyfriend that I didn’t feel comfortable meeting for the first time at something special planned for us. Not because I didn’t want to, not for any reason that she continues to extort, but because nothing could ever just be about someone else. It always had to be what was going on in her life, what exciting things she had, what new things were going on with her… and that was fine for a really long time because I’m the youngest sibling and I didn’t have a lot of special moments to share or be celebrated for. But having our baby, it was my special moment, something finally exciting and happy going on for me and my life. That was the last time we’ve spoke in 4 years. She continues creating a victim mentality and story for our family members.. even after I had my daughter, whom suffered a traumatic birth with extreme brain damage and epilepsy, she never reached out. Sent me a measly card saying “praying for you,” but never put in the effort to be present during the hardest time in my life, the saddest time of my life.. I was grieving what first time motherhood would look like. I was grieving a life my daughter should have had. I was grieving a life we were going to have together. And nothing…. I reached out several times trying to make things right because in some really hard moments.. all I wanted was my sister. But she never responded, she never showed, she never tried… so on top of grieving what should have been my healthy child, a good birth, and the joys of motherhood.. I was grieving a relationship with my sister.. and over time I learned that it was unforgivable. That I did all I could do. That if the shoe was on the other foot, no issue could’ve ever been too big for me to be by her side during the worst time in her life. I no longer call her my sister. I have heard the words “well that’s your sister, you have to forgive her someday.” And all I think is “yeah she was my sister… but I was supposed to be hers too and no one ever said that to her.”

Tamara De Bisschop :

i think we all have that one or maybe more people like that 😔

Dublin Girl :

Family are toxic sometimes for your own wellbeing you have to cut them off 🥰

thor :

that's my life. I have no friends, cause I can't trust people. that's why I prefer pet's, there my salvation

N Daves :

Am I missing something?? It’s not that bad I’m confused

Danielle Rose :

My family has done this to me since I was a child. I have 2 children and they use to go to my mothers house all of the time. One day they heard her talking terrible about me and they were so upset. They came home and told me everything and said they didn't want to go over there any more. I understood completely. I keep my family at a distance because I know they all talk behind my back. They gossip and make things up. I love them from a distance. I have my little family with my 2 children and my furry babies. That's the love I needed my entire life. ❤️

Charley! :

my sister is exactly the same. shes a massive narcissist and I couldnt be around it any longer so I said good luck to her and shut that door. and im a better person for it 😌 I hope youre ok. I know how much it stings and sisters should have each others backs, sometimes though, its not possible and you need to protect yourself and your little family xx

shirley :

I removed myself from my family....I'm happy and it was right for me and I don't regret it.

Kaya :

at the age of 40, I fully accepted the fact, my sister was my second bully, after my mother... both hated me all my life. I'm ok with this, they have their issues, and I was ok to accept it and go my way, without chasing love I will never receive back. it was painful, but not for long... we can't save people if they don't want to heal themselves. sending you love and hugs❤️🫂 you got this, you will be fine, I promise

leethom11 :

We all have 2 face family let them go your peace

Amy James :

Family’s are toxic! My own mum is not the person I grew up thinking she was. It will be three years this November. My kids don’t need the hate and negativity that she gives

A :

I have felt this way often, it hurts when you tell yourself that you’re done. Not because you don’t live that person anymore but because you love yourself more.

Jessica Perrego❌ :

Two of the closest people to me. It seemed that my entire life was a lie. It’s sad it took me this long to realize what was good for me and what wasn’t. You live and you learn.

Robin R :

This breaks my heart for you, I have a sister exactly the same. I cut all ties after years of abuse and lies straight to my face the whole time saying she loves me. My boundaries are strong now but yes it still hurts

Emma 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 Daisyduke :

Omg I needed this and this is me, I don’t speak to my sister and it’s been 3 years and it is a relief and I am peace honestly you think you know your family. You are one amazing lady and be proud of yourself 💖💖 xx

sourpoui :

you have to protect youn serenity girl

Tania :

Been there and living it

Alba McLennan :

When jealousy enters into any relationship it’s not authentic. This is why chosen family is the best family.

Jakeo :

So true 🙏❤️🙏

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Me.

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SabrinaMoore1988 :

2 weeks ago I threw a glass of water over my brother. Out of line yes ashamed yes but I had been pushed that far I exploded needless to say I've walked away from all 3 of my brothers and I'm now in theapy to help me love me and not hold out for other people's love and attention. Not once have they ever shown up for me and I hurts but I will learn to get over it