@longstorydark_: Okay, this video is long af. But if there is one 🚩red flag 🚩 I wish people knew about emotional and psychological abuse is that it causes significant CONFUSION. This is because is the tactics the abuser uses such as gaslighting, blame shifting, circular arguments, contradictory messaging, intermittent kindness, and moving goal posts. At the same time, the abuser is telling you that you’re stupid, you can’t remember anything, you’re emotional, irrational. Eventually, you start to trust their own perception of events over yours. You stop questioning them and start questioning yourself. I really thought that I was developing early onset dementia or that the chemotherapy I had just completed damaged my brain. The whole point is to control you and keep you trapped. Confusion also serves to keep you engaged in the conversation because it is normal for a person to want to seek clarity and understanding, especially if they care about a person and the relationship. But the abuser, does not care about the relationship in the same way that you do. They are not communicating to understand. They are communicating to control you. You have to realize that this is their hobby. It is like a sport for them. They have been practicing and perfecting these tactics for their whole lives. It is what they do for fun. I would say that confusion is the largest relationship red flag and also one that is not talked about enough. #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #confusion #coercivecontrol #domesticviolenceawarenessmonth

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