Jess- Your Boundary Big Sister
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Wednesday 07 October 2026 12:28:28 GMT
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Manman Taffy 🇭🇹 (mah-MAH) :
Dad didn't do anything that any parent should. OP didn't ask to be born. Yes, I desperately want grandkids, but that's my issue, not my kids'. But I never saw my kids as "mine"; I've always seen them as theirs'. My job is to raise independent adults. If I ever get grandkids, I'll be thrilled
2026-10-07 15:12:12
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sarah.is.trying :
Look, I understand you’re saying you’re trying to show and explain from the other perspective. But, how it comes off is “Here’s why someone might be emotionally cruel or abusive to you & why you need to have empathy and understanding for them.” Your response here displays all the empathy for the father and very little empathy for the daughter. I think you’re skipping over steps, because I DO see the value in understanding why people behave in terrible and cruel ways toward people they claim to love. But, it’s not because we should accept that kind of treatment.
2026-10-07 19:58:59
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❤️Annie :
I think there are also times when we pick partners similar to our parents. If you are leaving your spouse because you are sick of the cheating, but your dad cheats on your mom, the dad sees you leaving your marriage as an indictment of his marriage and his behavior. You leaving is seen as your belief that your mom should leave or should have left your dad. Trying to convince you to stay is his way of validating your mother’s choices and removing condemnation from him. Same for emotional unavailability, physical abuse, etc.
2026-10-14 16:05:29
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Grave Little Toaster :
I always say, your kids aren’t yours to keep.
2026-10-11 02:06:58
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Carrie :
What a weird response from dad!
2026-10-07 16:51:03
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Toongrrl1990 :
Dad is an Opp
2026-10-07 17:00:27
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Genicka :
what is the podcast called?
2026-10-08 11:05:01
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Honey Bear :
I think sometimes preserving the bond isn’t a good goal.
2026-10-07 21:20:04
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Pupperpants1 🛟 :
No contact
2026-10-09 21:41:20
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Talon73 :
So her father did the bare minimum and now wants her to produce him a grandson that’s not how it works
2026-10-15 03:10:02
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sarah.is.trying :
One of the cohosts of the view was recently defending the Cornell 7, and naturally she faced a lot of backlash. I saw an interview where she said Cynthia Erivo, who she is friends with, called her and said, “I understand you are trying to give information about the law. But you need to lead with empathy, before anyone wants to hear about the law.” And I think the same thing applies here, and in some of the other stories you share. You tend to go straight to trying to get the injured individual to understand the person who inflicted harm. The advice constantly seems to be, “You, the injured party, need to be more understanding.” I realize the parents and in laws etc aren’t the ones who are asking for advice, and you’re trying to share advice to help the injured party understand the dynamics at play, in order to try to seek resolution. But you need to spend more time delving into that, into first validating that harm was done, sharing the advice you would give to the people causing the harm, and THEN, say that IF the person wants to maintain a relationship with the person that has harmed them, here’s how to look at it. Sometimes a good boundary is simply, “If you treat me so poorly, you don’t get access to me.”
2026-10-07 20:04:55
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