@upspiral.life: Here's a brain trick for when someone pisses you off. That anger has nothing to do with them, it's in you. Three steps to flip it fast. Step one: shut up. Don't speak from anger, you're rehearsing it. Step two: activate your vagus nerve, your nervous system's calm switch. Cold water, ice, or a cold shower. Step three: nibbling appreciation, one minute naming what you love out loud. The calmest person in the room is the most powerful person in the room.