AVE :
Omgoodness, I’m not religious but I do daily put it out there and hope that one day my daughter returns to me. My ex husband (her father) who I left when she was only 2yo because of abuse & our daughter witnessing family violence now lives with him (she’s 15.5yo) & is somewhat estranged from me. He uses manipulation (money to buy her affection) & cocercive control to try to control me still. 13y have past and he alienates me from our girl. It’s been going on for year and now she’s buying into his wealthy lifestyle (with horses, nails, eyelashes, hair colour, whatever she wants)…whereas I’m impecunious and when my beautiful daughter spends time with me, I’m boring and bossy (I simply ask simple things like, “wipe the bench down”, “make your bed”, “put your dishes in the dishwasher”, etc…I’m lucky to have a dishwasher!!)…but I’m the bossy, boring Mum. I haven’t seen my daughter since July and she’s only expressed interest to see me this week but only with her father present. I am not spending one minute with that overgrown boy—I have no words to describe Robert except he has caused so much damage and I don’t like the word ‘hate’ but I do hate what he is doing and has done to drive a wedge between me and my beautiful darling daughter. I am worried she is lost and thankfully I have a psychologist who is helping me through this. I may not see her for months or years but have to live in hope that one day she will see through her father and reach out. In the meantime, I send her a weekly message telling her that I love her, I’m thinking of her and that I hope she chooses to see me soon. 🥺
2026-10-09 08:37:07