james :
It was only within marriage that I was criticized for how I walk, talk, eat, breathe, run, skip, laugh, drive, drink (not alcohol related), sleep, sit, move, ..........
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then they saved out time in their day to do.....
1. four hour lectures,
2. purposely needling to provoke you,
3. repeatedly picked fights with your side of the family/friends,
4. hit you with the car,
5. drug you,
6. thier eternal victim hood mindset,
7. steal money/belongings,
8. used the car to "play" threaten one of your children,
9. never apologized,
10. eyes turned black,
11. threatens with a deep gutteral voice,
12. body shaming,
13. silent treatment,
14. smear campaign,
15. purposely starting fights with you and then gets you to apologize for it,
16. uses "because I care" to control you,
17. constant accusations,
18. thier constant manipulation & martyrdom tactics,
19. creating arguments,
20. subtle ways of telling you how you do not measure up then changes the parameters of thier expectations
21. withhold/block finances,
22. controlled the home,
23. controlled his free time,
24. refused to learn his work schedule so that they could accuse you of being late/cheating,
25. constantly bringing up divorce in every argument
26. jump in and reprimand children while your already doing so
27. Withholding intimacy
28. Deliberately practicing emasculation
29. asking about your day only because they want to talk for hours about theirs and how something that occured was your fault when you hadnt been involved or there at all.
30. saying "we need to talk" as a way to say "here is another way that you disappoint me" or "here is another way that you do not care about me"....and this occures daily
31. cut bald spots in my hair and claiming that I moved to cause it
32. double standards were their standards
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these are just a few things I experienced and then I was called the villain
2026-10-17 16:51:58