@maizimmy: Don’t get me started on “Marriage is hard”😅 now I’m NOT giving marriage advice, but as a divorcee who is now married to the kindest man, this is advice I would NEVER take again. Being in a healthy relationship has taught me A LOT. NO1 is truly NO1: If you have to lie or withhold information from the people who love you in order for them to not hate the person you’re married to… The problem is NOT YOU sharing the facts. The problem is that the truth reveals your husband is not treating you well. You should not have to be PR for your husband. Keeping secrets to “Protect your marriage” is potentially protecting a system that is harming you. Please seek INDIVIDUAL counseling (not couples counseling as that is contraindicated in truly bad relationships) You should be able to share the way your spouse treats you. If you are being treated well, there is ZERO issue. Talk to your family. If you are being mistreated they NEED to know so they can help you. NO2: now, I don’t keep score with me & Paul. I know we are both putting in our best. We both work, we both cook/clean, we pick up eachothers slack when needed. I know making me happy makes him happy and vice versa. But I feel like this one keeps people in not great marriages for a LONG time cause you tell yourself that marriage isn’t 50/50 & not to keep score. Some situations do call for a score keeper. NO3: Sometimes the grass IS greener. Obviously, use discernment. If you have a hard working husband, who is honest, loyal, kind, but you’re still not happy. Seek counseling. If your husband on the other hand has you feeling confused, is acting shady, out late, puts you down, or generally acting in a way that brings us back to NO1 where you can’t be honest with your family without them HATING him? Seek counseling. #divorce #divorcedmom #blendedfamily #marriage #relationships @loréal paris usa @L’Oréal Paris @L’Oreal Paris Makeup & Hair @Lyft @Uber @onequince @LEVI'S @Nike @Coca-Cola @KitchenAid @Lodge Cast Iron USA @abercrombie & fitch

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