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ary :

random rant, haha. as an avoidant, yeah, I always end up pushing my loved one away because I don't want him to be involved in my problems. whenever I see something on my fyp related to being avoidant, I always find myself commenting because I can relate to it so much. I know that loving an avoidant person can be hard and tiring sometimes, and I understand that. but I'm genuinely grateful to that one person who chose to stay and understand me despite everything. sometimes, I hate myself for being this way because I know I can be selfish without even realizing it. I want to be understood, but I also make it hard for someone to understand me. I push him away when all he wants is to be there for me. I'm still trying to figure myself out, and I know I have a lot to work on. I just hope that one day, I can learn how to let someone love me without feeling the need to distance myself from them. The funny thing is, just when I started healing and becoming less avoidant, we ended up breaking up. :)

sandra :

te honestly we do think about it sometimes we just don’t know how to handle our own emotions kaya ang ending we distance ourselves kahit ayaw naman talaga namin mawala yung tao pero i know that’s not an excuse to keep hurting someone masaet din kya mamen

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sometimes i wonder why i'm like this. why do i push people away when deep down, i don't actually want them to leave? why do i suddenly feel the need to distance myself when someone gets too close to me? it's not that i don't care about them, and it's not always because i've lost feelings. sometimes, i just don't know how to deal with everything i'm feeling. i want to be close to someone, but at the same time, closeness scares me. and the moment things start feeling too real, i find myself pulling away without even knowing how to explain it. the worst part is that i know my actions can hurt people, especially those who are only trying to love me. sometimes i miss them so much that i want to come back, but i'm scared that things won't be the same anymore, or that i'll end up hurting them again. i know having my own struggles doesn't excuse the way i treat people, and i hate the thought of making someone feel like they weren't enough when the truth is, sometimes, i don't even know how to handle myself. i don't want people to think i never cared, because i did. maybe i just haven't learned how to let someone love me without feeling the need to run away. and honestly, i'm scared that one day, the people i keep pushing away will finally get tired of understanding me, and i'll have no one to blame but myself.

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Honest question for avoidants to answer plz, I have this someone I like na we're okay in person yet in chats there's times where she suddenly disappears for hours and days (that I understand its avoidant behavior) that's confusing me kase idk if ano ba talaga. she's aware about what I feel and we're wlw yet she's unlabeled idk if I should continue or really let her be kase she also never answered if what way ba kami she always changes the topics so what should I do 😓😓

Arthur Nery Bading 2.0 :

Tbh I do think it that way, but do you guys also understand how hard it is for us to? That we avoidants also struggle in our own mind and can’t help but just to distance ourselves. It really hurt to see the person you care about hurting because of me yk, so I rather see her happy with someone else that will treat her right, than see her suffer for understanding me too much to the point that she’s drained and tired but still understanding me. So yeah, I rather see her happy and living her life, than with me suffering :))

🌚 :

tbh lng di nmn sila mahirap intindihin e, yung need mo lng tlga is patience, you know how to understand them. and honestly yes masakit silang mahalin pero it won't be a reason to give up on them cause they will distant there selves cause they can express or explain there feelings. dahil lng they're distancing there selves it means na they don't love you na, she/he loves you even though she's/he's a avoidant. learning how to love an avoidant person will make you realize that it's easy. cause you just need to understand them.

nyxia :

as a avoidant shit I feel guilty for my actions especially to someone I love the most being in this situation is not easy that you think,it is very hard for us to not push someone we have a reason we just scared to be hurt or makasakit ng iba Lalo na loml

potassium :

sorry na, natatakot kami e:(

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ang hirap nila intindihin talaga [Teary eyed][Teary eyed][Teary eyed]

ali :

to all avoidant, sana wag muna po kayo pumasok sa isang rs if papaganahin nyo yung pagiging avoidant nyo. no hate but you know na you don't deserve love if nasa ganyang phase kayo ng buhay nyo kase what do u mean papasok kayo sa buhay ng isang tao tapos guguluhin nyo lng apaka selfish nyo naman po

kathrain :

yooo babalik ka lang ba ulit baby coz u loved me? or u just missed me?:/

ky :

tbh sometimes we just need reassurance, kumbaga we push to get pulled. tapos minsan pag tumagal yun medyo nilalamon kami ng konsensya then we feel guilty ganern. may times na parang nafefeel namin na mas nagiging distant sila kaya kami na yung unang lumalayo para di masaktan. ewan ko rin te pati ako nalilito na rin sa sarili ko.

sizzlinghotdog3 :

Nakakabaliw umintindi sa ganyang pag uugali men

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honestly we do think about before we do something, may times lang talaga na very overwhelming ang nangyayari and hindi na nakayanan ng emotion namin kaya imbes na makipag ayos we distance ourselves to protect them from us without knowing na habang we distance ourselves may nasasaktan na pala. tho hindi namin intensyon na ganu'n ang mangyayari, pero hindi parin ang sapat na excuses to hurt someone for being selfish.

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dobedoo :

sorry tao lng

Razz :

wala tayung magagwa🤷🏻‍♂️🥲

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keep it p :

Mauubos ka nalang talaga kakaintindi