Drew Daniels
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Saturday 10 October 2026 17:47:33 GMT
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Tropical D Pression :
we had to make a rule in our house that we aren't allowed to say "I'm sorry," because my wife would say it just to end the conversation. she didn't really mean it. she wasn't actually willing to be curious, empathize, and make a plan to change. spoiler alert: we removed her ability to say the words I'm sorry to get out of the conversation, but she never actually learned how to repair. we're getting a divorce.
2026-10-10 21:12:21
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Elysia :
I don't want an apology to match the intensity of the pain, I just want it to demonstrate genuine understanding
2026-10-16 01:42:58
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smithdeliveryservice :
This is so true. My gf/kind of ex cannot handle the shame so she will not apologize and change her behavior. I can’t wait to move out
2026-10-11 09:54:43
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Nae Nae :
he won't even acknowledge it
2026-10-10 20:21:30
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Bry | Mama :
On the other hand, my husband takes things wrong, chastised me for it, then demands an apology (and wants no repair) because to him and apology means "i was wrong and you are right." And so he never apologizes to me and refuses to apologize to our toddler because how could he be wrong over a toddler? 🙄
2026-10-12 14:14:46
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Mr. Fox :
what if it's something that no matter how much someone is trying they are not able to change, it happens and at this point they don't know what to do to change so they are not able to say what they will do to make things better so they can't say shiy
2026-10-15 20:58:13
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Manders :
Oof I love this description and it really encapsulates why good apologies are so difficult for avoidants 😬😅
2026-10-11 18:35:33
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particleboard1 :
'hell is other people.'-sartre. what we don't like in others is what we don't like in ourselves.
2026-10-10 19:42:39
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Simone <3 :
I’ve built my fyp BRICK BY MF BRICK!
2026-10-14 07:22:24
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JulzSays :
Hearing this made me cry because it put into words everything I’ve been feeling. Too bad my partner will never understand this
2026-10-13 03:22:01
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Nita :
Ur eyes are so pretty tho
2026-10-12 07:00:44
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bink :
I barely got a squeak of an "I know" when I said "you really hurt me" I don't think I ever got a real apology, I told him and myself that I forgave him, I just wanted to move past it and everything to be okay again, But truly, I don't think I ever forgave him
2026-10-20 02:10:11
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Abbi :
In my experience with a specific avoidant, they aren’t even able to acknowledge wrongdoing, the conversation is always about my response “I’m sorry you feel that way” etc.
2026-10-11 14:17:00
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jadeslck :
Doesnt understand why it hurted me so not gonna make excuses because it wont be « true excuses »…
2026-10-11 15:09:43
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Brojitsu :
Right on time!
2026-10-10 23:47:02
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MrWilson 🇭🇹 :
If it's meant to be; the tools for change will be provided.
2026-10-11 14:44:12
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Anthony :
i’m not going to atone for getting baited for years and years and having my mental health destroyed and being told hateful shit homie. i’m gonna explain the behavior and see if they stop saying nasty things and yelling and if they don’t i’m eventually just gonna leave
2026-10-13 04:37:50
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JamesRivertotheSea• Friend :
apology without changed behavior is just manipulation
2026-10-10 18:49:28
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Lisa Lise 🇨🇦 :
It's not that the intensity of the apology needs to match the hurt. The apology needs to be genuine, not a performative statement. It represents empathy for experience the other person endured.
2026-10-10 18:29:41
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The spiced ginger :
My pig of a ex used to say sorry your upset. Never sorry I said something awful or mean
2026-10-22 10:53:20
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Mrsdeborahg :
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2026-10-13 23:50:14
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