Dr. Sarah Hensley
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LetsYap_AboutIt :
Or my husbands personal favorite “This is how adults have conversations” 🙃
2026-10-14 18:50:42
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GiGi :
I love asking “why do you feel that way?” And that’s it.
2026-10-22 15:17:52
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Sharon Deus Benson :
We judge ourselves based on our intentions, we judge others on their behavior
2026-10-12 01:16:33
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Bluebell_London :
This is tricky, because not all of your partner’s feelings are based in reality. While I understand we all see an experienced things differently, if someone is completely out to left field thinking I was doing, saying or intending something that I wasn’t, I’m not going to validate their perspective.
2026-10-12 01:22:12
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Linley Freeman :
What if they bring up their “feelings” as a full narrative about your intentions and being sure about what you meant and being unwilling to consider another perspective? You can validate all day long but what if they’re wanting you to agree with their story? I would feel like I could validate and see the feelings underneath but couldn’t agree to their story and this would make them more angry. Is that still defensiveness? Also, the partner should bring things up from place of self, not “you did this thing (his interpretation) and you need to own it” despite not being able to point to a behavior.
2026-10-15 15:55:04
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easy_breezy_girl :
The sins you see in others are your own.
2026-10-21 19:17:56
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honestly sue :
doesnt matter about history its about my autonomy
2026-10-15 03:21:44
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Aro Caitlin :
If practicing openness is a skill that can help heal defensiveness, can you talk about ways we can practice this on our own vs ways we can only practice while in relationship?
2026-10-17 06:53:16
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سارا كابرال :
Oooohhhhh maaaaaaaannnnn 😮💨 both of us were super defensive 😖
2026-10-12 03:06:19
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paulabarnes270 :
Did you watch The recent Ultimatum? Killian and Ashley. Crazyyyy
2026-10-12 13:53:26
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Lillz :
Me and my partner are both defensive and aware. I am actively and intentionally trying to educate myself and break the pattern. He refuses. I try to lead by example but it makes me so anxious and hurt!!
2026-10-16 13:18:08
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𝕊𝕒𝕣𝕒𝕙•°*” :
More people need to know about the Fundamental Attribution Error!!! It applies to everyone! Your partner, your coworkers, perfect strangers, etc
2026-10-12 03:00:32
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JDavid📚Author :
It’s honestly comforting to hear that this is a very common issue in relationships. It makes me feel less defective to know that other people are going through the same fear and shame when receiving feedback.
2026-10-12 15:31:51
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Henk :
great info. i love how you explain it.
2026-10-12 05:07:53
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Alexia Grace :
Single and searching
2026-10-13 10:29:19
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cece_laine1 :
This really made me think.
2026-10-12 00:42:30
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Squishy :
This is why I left my ex. He got defensive every time I bring up a concern or a hurt. Then calls me crazy or delusional as if dismissing me wasn't enough already.
2026-10-12 02:19:06
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honestly sue :
I understand butttt
2026-10-15 03:20:54
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outthewindowproducti :
Seriously why even get into relationships? Its so hurtful and confusing and just not peaceful at all. So much work and hurt. Why do we do all this? For what?
2026-10-24 18:25:55
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magicallifeJENN 💫 :
Omg this is so true! Thank you for explaining this.
2026-10-12 18:31:12
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Tash Talks :
100% my stbxh would make me the problem, not the problem.
2026-10-12 03:27:21
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Megschristina :
I picked this apart many years ago in myself. Unfortunately I walked away with too much empathy to care for myself well, narcissism is good for you tbh. It really really is.
2026-10-12 04:51:27
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JennieOfAllTrades :
can we some how make this type of relational skill something that's taught in school, or some how streamlined in society because it's FUCKING BASIC and yet there's a Wiiiide vast number of the population that refuses to step up and learn how to communicate with other people.
2026-10-13 01:27:43
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KLA JAY :
Side note ur hair looks amazing! Less blonde definitely suits you. Too much blonde ages you.
2026-10-12 02:16:21
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Peaceful girl :
Can a person live and feel loved with a DA?
2026-10-15 22:10:15
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