@dr.sherrie: When low-effort parents expect you to come back after making you survive alone, they may underestimate what surviving without them changed in you. You learned how to handle crises, celebrate milestones, make decisions, raise children, build stability, and create a life without the support you once needed from them. Then, years later, they may expect the parent-child relationship to resume as though their absence created no consequences. But learning you can survive without someone can permanently change how much access you’re willing to give them. 🏗️🚪 What to Do About It: You don’t owe someone closeness simply because they’re ready for it now. Reconnection should be built through accountability, consistency, repair, and sustained effort. They may want their place back in your life, but that place cannot be reclaimed by pretending you never had to learn to live without them. 🧭🪴 #LowEffortParents #Parents #Boundaries #AdultChildren #HealingJourney
Dr. Sherrie
Region: US
Tuesday 13 October 2026 14:45:54 GMT
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Daddy Chri§ :
they were only low effort to me bruh 💔
2026-11-08 16:57:33
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jrdeclercq :
Nah.. Golden child can step up to the plate.
2026-10-14 01:10:48
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alice45 :
Had literally NO emotional support now all of the sudden they wanna be best friends
2026-10-13 17:20:50
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Sofiashashkova :
Ya pretty much
2026-11-09 15:05:22
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Indefinite Eric :
My low contact family all of a sudden remembered that I exist after a health episode on their side.
2026-10-13 17:39:52
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MotherOfGames :
My mom wonders why I dont involve her more, tell her more. She valued men more than me when I lived with her why should I value her now?
2026-10-13 16:22:36
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BC_ReelEstate :
Here’s how you handle it: no thank you. Block.
2026-10-13 18:43:48
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God’s love and compassion :
I learned to match efforts in any relationship
2026-10-13 14:57:14
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01189998819991197253 :
They literally told me "you'll be back" after I moved out. I never went back and refuse to now. 😭😭😭
2026-10-13 16:46:10
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Gritty Jem :
absolutely not. I moved away at 19 for a reason.
2026-10-18 02:12:54
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Lex LonDonn :
Facts but I got brothers. They got it
2026-10-13 20:49:51
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Lauren :
I had no help. my mother never mothered me and now she expects me to drop everything
2026-10-13 17:46:22
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lenab1na :
I’m past the guilt phase and living a no obligation life
2026-10-13 18:37:28
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J :
They told me I had to go to college, and laughed at me when I asked for financial help. So now that I’m working an extra job to pay off my student loan I have no time or inclination to help them.
2026-10-13 17:13:03
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Justyna Poserina :
My parents have never been an emotional safety net for me. And I just realized some of my trauma was actually intentionally caused by them. I told my daughter that my real life is so crazy that if I wrote it in a book someone would criticize it for being unrealistic
2026-10-14 19:30:07
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MuddyPaws77 :
The older I get I see just how low effort my mom is. In August we had to evacuate for a wildfire; I thought we were going to lose everything. My mom asked about how it started and then complained about other fires in the PNW. Then just said “Well, keep me posted.” Not an offer of assistance or support at all. It definitely hurt!
2026-10-16 02:17:56
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Prince Angel of Wonderland :
I was 17 suffering from appendicitis. I was already living on my own. called My mom told her I need to go to the hospital she complain relentlessly about having to come pick me up. I told her if she didn’t come pick me up. I was gonna need to call an ambulance. She was reluctantly, took me to the hospital drop me off at the emergency room entrance and told me to call her when I was done because she didn’t wanna miss her Novelas “Mexican soap operas “ I was admitted to the hospital for surgery in the morning. She never came to visit me. I had to call my friend after my surgery to come pick me up and take me back to my apartment. Fast forward 25 years Just a few weeks ago she sent me a text message that she thinks she has breast cancer and she’s waiting to hear the results. I really didn’t know what to do with that information but I remember how hurt I was alone and scared I was at 17 having to deal with major surgery by myself.
2026-10-31 21:55:10
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ambernj :
Jokes on them, I am not coming to save them. 😂
2026-10-13 19:38:12
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David Gill :
They're not getting ANYTHING
2026-10-13 18:44:53
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Starlight :
Anytime they need a free servant they will be reaching for the one they abused. Hence why there is a BLOCK option on phone and emails, do that.
2026-10-14 01:26:46
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rubyyriverss :
I’m tired at 23. My parents gave me way to my grandmother at the age of three she was overworked and in a bad marriage, my entire childhood to a man who is very abusive and treated me like a burden I was expected to keep good grades, but they never helped me study never pushed me or encouraged me to do anything in my life and not to mention they never saved up any money for me to go to college. I’m on my own. I’m a young mother to a toddler. Of course my grandmother barely helps and my parents are MIA. I’ve lost so much love and respect for every family member that I’ve had they all desperately want more of my time more of my energy and I just can’t give it to them. I don’t have any love in my heart for them to give it to them after all that I’ve had to go through all the nights that I cried myself to sleep all the nights that I was completely alone my childhood, I have nothing to show for it and although I am very intelligent, I am incredibly stunted
2026-10-13 15:38:13
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Managing The Madness :
When u grow up in chaos & get a little taste of peace, u become addicted & wake up everyday marinating in it. Anyone who disturbs that peace cant be present in my life, I dont care who u are.
2026-10-15 08:25:59
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Special K :
I’m not helping anyone
2026-10-13 17:30:34
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Grace :
Started supporting my mom, told her she couldn’t put the daily liquor store on my card. She started “grocery” shopping at Whole Foods…they sell wine. I cut her off.
2026-10-14 03:39:03
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Crassus_ttv :
Mine is trying to control me after years of negligence. No
2026-10-14 00:44:01
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