5hahem
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Linsey Anne :
Boundaries are for you, not other people, that was the sentence that made it click.
2026-10-13 17:32:02
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Alicia RaLen :
So if I say “Please don’t allow people to sit on my 💀 fathers couch.” Is that a boundary or controlling(context, it’s in the garage, I’m trying to sell it because of my feelings surrounding it being used. I’ve been willing to sit with the discomfort of certain people using it, but I’m not willing to with everyone which is why I just want it gone. It’s too painful and I feel like it causes conflict)
2026-10-13 17:54:55
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Hannah :
Boundaries are something you can control internally for yourself. Controlling is something you are trying to force someone externally from yourself to do. “/I/ don’t visit my mom” is a boundary. “/YOU/ can’t play that video game” is controlling.
2026-10-13 17:33:55
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jk. :
S going no contact controlling?
2026-10-17 01:27:23
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Milli Tyme :
Boundaries are the personal rules and limits you set to define how you want people to treat you, and what you will or will not accept in a relationship platonic or romantic…
2026-10-13 23:22:23
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charm6627 :
LMAO someone told me I was being controlling because I refused to continue a conversation after they insulted me 🤣 like im not going to keep talking to you if you are hostile unapologetically and think I must be an emotional punching bag because you’re upset
2026-10-13 18:41:51
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timaraisms :
Can we talk more about posting pictures online? I think that example is throwing me off because people shouldn't post pictures of others without their permission. You shouldn't have to justify why you don't want your pictures posted. You have autonomy over your likeness.
2026-10-13 20:47:05
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Tre 𐙚˚⟡ :
too many of these ppl’s “boundaries” are just rules for other ppl 😩
2026-10-14 15:53:07
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elliotblakeysmith :
A fwb that I was not dating said, “I don’t want you to sleep with him, it’s my boundary”. I said, “that’s not a boundary, that’s a rule…and a rule that I would not expect of you or of someone that I’m actually dating”. He said, “I feel like you’re gaslighting me”. And I said, “I’m 100% certain that you don’t know what the words boundary of gaslighting mean”.
2026-10-15 11:17:18
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PickUpStyx :
Can you also do a video on the difference between being a supportive friend and being an enabler who is doing too much work to emotionally regulate another person? I was trying to articulate the concept to a friend and realized I couldn't do it.
2026-10-13 20:01:44
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Latasha :
Now let’s talk about suggestions vs demands
2026-10-13 20:39:33
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Henry @ HighonHorses :
Here’s the thing…boundaries can still be used to control the other person when the boundary involves their actions. And they can feel controlling to the other person when they don’t like them. Boundaries are more internal and sound closer to ‘do I like what has happened?’ instead of ‘how could that person do that to me?’.
2026-10-13 17:59:44
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Bless 💋 :
a real boundary is the action you take after the disrespect 🗣️
2026-10-15 18:34:51
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Fey :
I literally tried to explain this to some teenage or early 20 somethings this and it was like talking into a void. I just had to leave it alone. 🙃
2026-10-13 18:19:28
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fae :
i used to think i was great at setting boundaries but my therapist was like nah girl your language is controlling. for ex, ‘dont do this,’ ‘stop that,’ ‘i dont like that’ etc. you have to center that control to yourself. ‘please reframe from doing x around me, if you do i will do y.’ realizing that helped me so much to actually communicate and protect my peace effectively
2026-10-14 16:23:24
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Peculiarchicc | ContentCreator :
boundary or control? my mom got upset with me for something I posted on my account about my family dynamic or experience and she tried to scoll me and say "it looks immature to be putting ones problems public" Keep in mind it was meme about Danny devito or whatever his name is, literally expressing how he doesn't care if people judge his trama or his public display of sharing it. I told her that's my experience if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to follow or see it, she didnt and try to proceed to lecture me on how it makes the "family" look
2026-10-13 22:05:15
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Yannie 🦋 :
I think what made boundaries hard to apply is I wasn’t ready to take the action when my boundaries were crossed. I was using them as a way to communicate my needs vs clearing stating what I need.
2026-10-15 04:58:22
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Uchethealchemist :
Genuine question do all boundaries need to be verbalized or just when someone getting ready to cross them
2026-10-13 20:21:26
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Dragon_fruit :
Thaaaank you
2026-10-13 18:02:54
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Lauren | PhD Student :
This is a very important conversation!
2026-10-14 13:19:01
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Sahara Star :
I feel anything believed to be an essential rather a condition is something where control issues are occurring
2026-10-13 22:12:15
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Miss Blade :
Can you only communicate the first sentence like “please don’t yell at me” and then just leave if they do? Sometimes when I communicate the full thought ppl still bristle etc
2026-10-14 00:19:45
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iamromnyaakia :
Currently learning this more..
2026-10-14 20:08:44
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Xia 💖 :
Well explained 💗 I learned something
2026-10-14 13:10:31
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Emily Rust :
I did so well on the pop quiz! 🥰
2026-10-15 10:07:57
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