Jake Stark
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Tuesday 13 October 2026 22:59:12 GMT
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Becca Hepner :
active listening, asking questions, sharing stories, breaking the touch barrier (a little arm touch, knee touch, hug, etc.) and always being appreciative and saying thank you!
2026-11-10 15:01:19
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Chlo :
yall are getting first dates?l
2026-11-06 17:58:07
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elizabeth m :
You should be looking for me
2026-11-10 02:38:18
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Michelle :
It’s bare minimum, but since guys don’t even do this stuff anymore, it feels over the top.
2026-10-14 01:55:13
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tay :
eye contact, asking questions and genuinely commenting and starting a conversation based on the answer, ignoring texts/notifications while on the date (unless there is an emergency situation you’re waiting for an update on and if so disclose that information at the beginning of the date).
2026-10-14 02:57:45
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❤️Alonna Henderson❤️ :
I wouldn’t know I’ve never actually been on a “date” before
2026-11-03 03:11:22
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Mackenzie Mobley :
Me personally if a man is doing these kind gestures for me I feel as if I need to do them for him as well. Ways I could show that is saying thank you for the little things: flowers, doors, paying, etc. and at the date engaging in conversation, asking questions about himself, if things go past a few dates of we truly like each other I’m trying to remember things that you like to bring you as well. I personally feel that if a man is going out of his ways to do these “bare minimum“ gestures and the least I can do is listen to the things that you like and/or the things that you like to do it show interesting those things for you. I personally feel a woman’s actions and words can go a long way with the right man. But we don’t allow ourselves to get there because tbh most men don’t deserve to get treated like that nowadays. But still waiting and hoping that someone will come along and I can treat them just as amazing as they are treating me!
2026-10-22 11:13:26
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Lexie’s Corner :
Back and forth conversations, for sure. Actually being interested and asking questions instead of just being asked questions. And definitely lots of thank yous for the date, holding the doors, etc!!
2026-10-13 23:11:50
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sam :
I brought homemade banana bread with his fave additions for a first date one time since he just had his bday and it was my version of flowers for him🧍🏻♀️I wouldn’t have done that unless I knew it was reciprocated energy though. He showed up with my favorite flowers (that looked like the pattern of a piece of jewelry I wanted and showed him) and snacks that we were talking about so I was glad I did that. I feel like girls show interest in a lot of smaller ways like making time, trying to text in the meantime, and following up with interests that were brought up. During a date, usually saying thank you and being attentive/curious back.
2026-11-02 10:36:52
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Brit⛸ :
She better say thank you even though the guy should pay on the date but it doesn’t mean you forget manners
2026-11-09 03:48:22
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Misty🖤 :
Most of the time I had to plan or figure out the date after being asked out on one. So a man who dose all this would be nice.
2026-11-01 18:48:34
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Sunshine :
Prompt responses, appreciation, genuine conversation (I’m used to paying so I can’t say much on that), I also feel it’s important to say little to no phone activity in general. I would also think it’s cool to give a guy flowers as well.
2026-10-31 23:18:10
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Melissa K 🐝 :
Dress up for the date—doesn’t mean a dress, but something more than everyday wear, give full attention to the conversation and date (no phone out) tell you you look nice or smell nice, if you are paying for the date—follow your lead on price point, use manners (please, thank you, napkin in lap, etc)….a kiss is as far as it goes on first date.
2026-10-27 23:19:41
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Libby :
Mom of 2 daughters in their twenties here… we have taught them to dress nicely (preferably a dress unless first date is sporty) and well groomed (hair, natural makeup, nails,etc) Be on time and express appreciation for all that the boy does for them. Be a strong listener and conversationalist and make eye contact. They are traditional and conservative
2026-10-24 15:35:54
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Liv :
I never got flowers on a first date☹️
2026-10-29 10:10:30
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Ali :
Genuine appreciation and engagement. Not distracted by a phone or watch (unless you have young kids, then just give a heads up to your date.) Show reciprocal behavior. Active listening and responding.
2026-11-06 18:43:34
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scar.2brr :
For the first couple dates it is bare minimum to show genuine interest, ask questions and say thank you for the date. As an indecisive person I like when a guy plans the date but I think it is expected of me to help give ideas for things to do. AND give men compliments, they don’t receive as many as women and it is a nice addition to the conversation!
2026-10-13 23:30:39
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The Mermaid Grotto :
For women I would say showing the guy equal respect and being appreciative when they do things like bring flowers, open the door, and pay for dinner, because if a girl isn’t respecting you at the beginning, then they won’t be able to match your energy in the long term, and that goes both ways. And also I would say not expecting the guy to carry the whole conversation, if a woman is interested they will want to ask questions and find out what you have in common. I also think it’s okay for the girl to have her guard up at the beginning because that is how they assess if they are safe with the other person.
2026-11-03 19:59:34
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Jane Stark :
Bare minimum…..please and thank you, being on time, or ready if you are being picked up by your date
2026-10-13 23:50:40
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Valerie Kilduff :
She SHOULD demonstrate gratitude. I would hope that she would have impeccable manners.
2026-10-31 18:30:31
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Reylean :
I believe flowers on the third date is reasonable because by then you should know her favorite flowers or what she likes compared to others.
2026-11-06 16:20:26
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Rachelle Roberts :
This is a great question. I’ve never actually been asked this so I didn’t really think of it like a checklist. Kinda like how it is for men. There really isn’t a set list of things we run through that we need to do. I really think it just comes down to character for women 😂😂 I know that’s such a broad answer but you can genuinely tell if she’s respectful, kind, caring in a few hours and if she is showing up as a godly women and presenting herself in those ways then those are green flags.
2026-10-31 13:12:15
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Jill 🥧☕️📚 :
Manners!!!! Saying please and thank you are a big plus. Physical touch or laughing at your jokes. Able to carry a conversation
2026-10-14 11:27:40
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Chelsea :
Ooo, you've got the right mindset on bare minimum for guys. And that's a really great question.
2026-10-24 04:00:30
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Emily :
Make sure someone is ACTUALLY listening to you. It for sure goes both ways. I would even go as far as to say something in the beginning and reference it later to make sure she actually heard it a clocked it. I make sure to do it.. I can’t expect someone to listen to me and remember if I’m not reciprocating it
2026-10-14 19:41:36
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