@cyclebreakerscounselling: Children are separate, developing human beings, not tools to be leveraged in the aftermath of a separation. When an abusive person restricts a child’s access to a safe, loving parent, they often hide behind the facade of being protective. The reality is far more insidious: it is a calculated continuation of coercive control. This dynamic forces an innocent child into the center of adult conflict, creating severe, ongoing relationship distress. Clinically, we identify this as a Child Affected by Parental Relationship Distress (CAPRD). The child is subtly or overtly taught that loving the targeted parent is a betrayal. They are placed in an impossible bind, forced to suppress their natural attachment simply to survive the emotional climate dictated by the controlling parent. Using a child for retaliation is a profound betrayal of the parent-child bond. You are not just getting back at an ex; you are fundamentally fracturing a child's sense of safety, their emotional regulation, and their blueprint for what love should look like. A developing nervous system is not equipped to carry the heavy weight of an adult's entitlement and demand for dominance. When an abusive person weaponizes a child, they are demanding that the child sacrifice their own psychological well-being to serve the adult's need for power and retribution. If you are a safe parent enduring this, the reality of family court and the lack of immediate systemic intervention can feel completely overwhelming. Your consistency, your emotional regulation, and your steadfast presence are the greatest antidotes to the chaos being projected onto your family. How do you ground yourself and maintain your own emotional regulation when the system is moving too slowly? #alienation #familycourt #control #caprd

Cycle Breaker, R. Psychologist

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