@nick_werber: Here’s one of the hardest lessons for black sheep and scapegoats: it wasn’t that deep (for them). So much so that the person who said those things probably doesn’t even remember it. That doesn't excuse it. But it does tell you that there was practically zero thought behind it. And that means something because so often we spend years trying to compensate or figure out how to fix ourselves. But the truth is, there wasn't much to it all along. ➡️ If this resonates with you, I’m teaching a program called Inner Child Work for Black Sheep that starts October 22nd. Details are at the link in my profile. ➡️ Follow for more black sheep content. #familyscapegoat #blacksheep #cyclebreakers #innerchildwork

MiaRose :

To be honest knowing this has always made me feel worse. It meant I was an absolute nothing none existent pos to my own mother. I'd far prefer there was something I could work on and fix.

SilkandSatin :

And that’s the real tragedy… honestly

amberwilson8035 :

I appreciate this take. Before I became estranged I used to endlessly try and understand what I did wrong to receive so much hate. I understand it wasn't really about me

Renee Giometti :

Thank you for this. You’re absolutely spot on. My narcissistic father who is 85 now has not changed and never will. My mother died still in her narcissistic state on her death bed. They do not want to heal nor feel anything is wrong with them. It’s your freedom to move on and give yourself all the love your inner child wants and needs. 🙏❤️

AtlasKaizen :

✨✨✨ :

visiting my family right now and I needed this

Gretchen Ronnevik :

It took me 10 years to realize their behavior had nothing to do with me.

ziran@mox :

the hero we need and hopefully one day deserve by breaking cycles

emilycarter056 :

I love watching your videos

glaminana :

That’s crazy

amandahope705 :

It’s so easy for me to see this for others. When I’m looking at myself and relationships? Different 😂

Anoukio G :

Thank you so much for your beautiful insights. I really enjoy listening to you.[Rood hart]

120_minutes_to_go :

I told my Mum she was strict (in front of others)… she denied it and acted all sweet and innocent. She caused me A LOT of mental health issues for decades

M :

Ya know when someone says something is a specific way that lands just right. Yeah that. 🤝

Ann Massey :

If only I understood this concept 20 years ago. I have done the work. I agree 100% that the why does not even register on the scale of knowing and embracing yourself. 💗🙏🏻💗☘️

Bushsafe :

Asking why is a never ending loop that you can't get out of.

Vicky Newham/Izzie Harper 🇬🇧 :

I think what they say represents what they feel about themselves.

ᴡｉʟｄ :

in general...they are so detachex from reality and themselves...automatons realy not deep

SandNew :

Liz neal :

Oh yeah.. projection..

Delta_dawn46 :

They had the perfect chance to get to know you, but they chose not to. Please remember God sees everything.

Jackie White :

Your awesome. You have helped me alot. Thank you.

Hehasrisen99 :

the first memory I have of my mother occurred when I was about 4 or 5 years old. she told me I was no longer worthy to go to church and sit in a classroom with a real children. that was over 50 years ago, and I remember those words every time I walk into church. unfortunately they are part of me.

Slowwisdom :

💯 people don’t think that much about you. Least of all abusive ones …

Paul Carmody :

repeat after me "its not my fault". The Scapegoat is a Role filled by an actor. You were cast into that role as an actor simply because you were there and could play the role well for them. That's it.