@tcherlindratarrance: GIRLLLL! Can we normalize being 40-something, loving the life we’ve built, but still trying to figure out what we want NEXT?! 😩 Be honest… if nobody needed anything from you, what would YOU want for yourself? 👀👇🏽#MamaFlexFiles #blackwomenoftiktok #liveafter40 #becomingher

tangie76us :

I just turned 50 last week and I spent my whole birthday crying because I lived 50 years and I have nothing to show for it (besides my 2 adult sons) and I KNOW I will not live another 50 years and I am stuck, I want to just "live" but can't because I don't know who I am anymore or what I want...on top of perimenopause making me crazy. I am just existing and it sucks so bad.

Livelovenaja 💜💜 :

I am 45 and scared to take the step to change my life.. feel guilty allowing me to focus on me been in mommy mode so long

KaayeRenee :

Mannnnnnn 45 and have no clue why God put me here. 😮‍💨🤦🏾‍♀️🙏🏾💜💜💜

iAmShaCarolynHStephens :

Preach, sis!

MsRonni2u :

Still trying to figure it out at 47😂😂😂

brownsugar_catt :

I am 45 and I can actually say I want more but don’t know what the more is. One minute I think I know then boom I don’t know. Baby this life is twisting turning and etc. and another thing sometimes I think about what I want but then be like that’s what I wanted in my past, I don’t want the same thing I think lol see confuse 😂

Msporter01 :

Girl I’m 48 and I thought it was just me!!!

friend💜always2u♋️ :

Was so excited to turn 40 and 41 is taking me out 😵‍💫😒 lol! Im just winging it at this point gracefully ✨

JoNicole :

THIS needs to be a table talk ! Where are you located? 👀

Nicole Mack :

I am 45 thinking about going back to school but I don't even know what career I want to be in. Its so much I want to change.

🌸Darknlovely Sisi🌸 :

Sis we got to talk about this I’m 41 and lost right now don’t know which way to go 🤦🏾‍♀️

Maisha Wilson :

I’m 44 and felt this to the depth of my soul! Especially after losing my federal government career due to this administration after being there for 13 years! I’m trying to figure out who even am I other than being a Mom, a daughter, and fiancé?!

Jess_TG :

Turned 40 literally 4 days ago and trying to figure out which career path to take🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Ms.Tjackson9 :

Omg . I'm 47 and this is me, currently. Ive been in both survival and mommie mode to where I feel guilty just wanting me time, just me.And how about I feel guilty just wanna get something for me, but I see something my child and I always put my stuff back and get for my kids. smh .

lyfee_with_dreya :

46 right here and I’m still unsure you spoke so much truth on this

Lovely Coco :

Girl you hit this on the head!!

Lisa✨The Empty Nester :

Well, do the work on your 40s because you’ll join us in the 50s with the same problem. 😳 But, I have found out that rediscovering yourself requires some work, because who am I outside of family, work, and friends.. and what do I want is a hard question for me.

Shamika Rountree :

🥺 finally some one gets it without judgement.

I am Harlem Love :

QueenZ :

Was you listening to my prayer this morning..😏 Girllll, steps have to be taken

mshellsworld :

Honey...what we do? Turning 44 with 2 grown kids living at home and my mother living with me too! I just wanna pack up and move and try something different but feel like I can't make a move without thinking about them😵‍💫

Nani :

44 here and you just told my whole business. I’m feeling terrible for not feeling content because it can always be worse but damn it can be better 🤦🏻‍♀️😩

Unique2mee2 :

41 here and what did Tamela Mann say? “Truth is I’m tired” 🙆🏾‍♀️

Juss Meek :

Whhheeww it is me noooowww!!

Lady J :

45 and trying to find my way….