@anthonypillarella: Replying to @darknessinblood I spent a REALLY long time agonizing over whether different social skills were manipulative. This was especially true once I started to learn about the mechanics of manipulation. And after literal years ruminating on this, my best answer is to just do the good social skills. Just make sure you are doing them because they're honest, not because you have something to gain. #charisma #socialskills #manipulation #meetingpeople #makingfriends
Random question but how old were you when you figured all this stuff out? I'm in my mid 20s now and I feel like I've lost so much time
2026-10-17 03:08:53
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Kelsier'sPinkRyshadiumClub :
manipulators do this because it emulates the behavior of good people. if you're concerned about doing that, you're much less likely to be a manipulative person, but self reflection is important regardless
2026-10-16 21:49:48
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its riku. they put bugs in him :
its possible to manipulate without meaning to but that's also very complicated. manipulation is a combination of intent, actual influence gained, and harm done or potential harm.
2026-10-17 00:30:35
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Robert Myers :
Erra Augment in the background is 🔥
2026-10-16 23:48:12
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yearofthecrow :
But I feel like now people will read it as manipulative rather than sincere.
2026-10-17 18:39:37
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sermocinatrix :
I think a manipulator is somebody offers the image of being a good person without actually following through. like offering to host dinner when I knew they would not say yes and I didn't actually want to host dinner for them would be manipulation.
2026-10-17 03:08:00
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JamesRivertotheSea• Friend :
accountability and consideration are more important to be on watch for than manipulation and malice. you can create the situation you are trying to avoid by looking for it
2026-10-16 21:29:07
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Human Signal Lab | Psychology :
The other person's freedom to say no matters here. Being curious or kind doesn't create a debt they have to repay with attention, friendship or a date.
2026-10-20 07:15:52
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