Grow with Kaela
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𝓛. 🍂 :
I feel like every time I try to talk to someone about it, I end up having to defend myself and my pain/grief and what the relationship was and meant... it would be so helpful if one of my friends or family went through something similar but I also would never ever want someone to be able to relate to feeling like this 😢 it's the hardest, most lonely experience I've ever had to deal with in my life.
2026-10-20 13:43:40
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Sara :
I’m literally 8 months post break up and I’m still going through it .. no one gets it
2026-10-17 04:47:17
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Jennifer Lou :
Going through a discard makes you feel like you’re going crazy. Then trying to explain it to anyone else makes you feel SURE you’re going crazy.
2026-10-16 22:08:57
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Krissy :
No contact for 4 days and my heart is literally aching.
2026-10-19 02:09:14
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Freshman15Davey :
I felt like I was going crazy. “She was there. She said and felt these things right along with me. How could she just dismiss me and ghost me like I never existed out of nowhere?!” It’s jarring and it messes with your psyche. I’m am about a year and 2 months out and I’m JUST starting to not stare at my phone hoping it’s her. It’s absurd the effect it has.
2026-10-17 07:40:36
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Tequila Coco🥥🍍🔮🌙──⃝─⃝⃝⃝⃝── :
I don't know if I was even discarded. I cant pinpoint when. it was just this slow decline into him creating so many problems with me that I left. 2 decades wasted.
2026-10-20 14:55:15
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Lamaar Robert :
I literally stopped talking to my friends about it because no one understands. Thank you for validating my feelings.
2026-10-17 00:17:09
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user8189599970609 :
I’m almost a year into it. I feel so alone and like I’m going crazy. Nobody understands. It’s horrible that I miss him and hate him at the same time.
2026-10-17 23:14:57
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emme :
yes yes yes. my therapist said it would be helpful if I had a friend who has been through deep betrayal to talk to. unfortunately I don't.
2026-10-16 22:06:13
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M :
I love deep connections and intimacy, and I’m loyal, but I compartmentalize my life and keep secrets. I never compromise my independence, always prepare myself to lose anyone, and never miss anyone after a breakup. Does that sound DA?
2026-10-19 23:57:30
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Heidi Groom :
They think I’m just nuts or in denial when I try to explain the patterns and why they do what they do 🙄👎🏼
2026-10-17 01:13:05
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Shippedmybed :
I am 4 years from the discard from at the time was a 25 yr marriage. what makes it really hard is that we are married but in-home separated. I still see her almost everyday. it still feels like yesterday but it was 4 years ago this month.
2026-10-17 12:41:47
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Crimson :
10 months of no contact and while things are feeing better this week feels like I am taking 2 steps back. It is so lonely because no one I talk to understands.
2026-10-17 02:44:05
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Itsdr0 :
Yea. My friends mean well but I know they don’t really understand the trauma
2026-10-19 01:26:45
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Rusted0101 :
Exactly where I am at currently…. This grief is taking longer than I’d like but my friends don’t want to be there for me anymore
2026-10-16 22:28:50
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filthygourmet :
Preach. Two months post break up and one month post last week talked, and that’s exactly how it feels. Fried. But not knowing where to stash it. I have good days, and then something triggers me and my nervous system goes into panic mode again.
2026-10-17 00:20:25
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mariejustin25 :
Dated 7 months ago. The discard is worse then my long term relationships
2026-10-16 22:45:22
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annidonia :
It’s so hard to explain when other people have no idea what a DA is. I didn’t either until after my divorce. I had a decade of escalating emotional abuse and abandonment that no one else ever saw. I’m sure he just told people “it didn’t work out”. No one has any idea the pain I went through and still struggle with 4 yrs later. I deeply miss the man I fell in love with. I resent who he became.
2026-10-17 03:47:10
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Vanexa :
That's why I do not count him as a "Relationship." It was one sided on my end, my needs were not met at all, he ghosted me... just some dude i was seeing. 🤣🤣
2026-10-17 01:16:10
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pastrichefb2 :
All worse!! If people haven’t been through it, they just don’t get how much it hurts and they say insensitive things like just move on or the best way to get over someone else to get under someone else they have no idea what you’re feeling
2026-10-17 04:02:49
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Windowsill Deviled Egg :
Literally no one in my day-to-day life has any understanding whatsoever. I have stopped talking about it to with anyone other than my therapist.
2026-10-17 02:09:56
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Funnygirl :
It is a mind $&@(…plain and simple.. it’s real it happened and unfortunately for me it’s not the first time. also, very unfortunate that I did not listen to my initial instincts when I first met this person I knew something wasn’t right, and I ignored it and then eventually I got attached because his mask that he wore who he pretended to be was everything I ever wanted in a man, but boy when that mask fell off .shocking !! my system is still in shock!
2026-10-16 22:56:03
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duckone00 :
It’s crazy the roller coaster I’m going thru. One week I feel like I’m 80% thru and then you talk to a friend and suddenly the nightly dreams come back worse than ever and I’m back near the beginning. I can’t wait to be past all
2026-10-16 23:33:28
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🪖FUBAR🪖 :
it's a mind fuck. they're narcissistic Soul Thieves. They don't change. give yourself Grace. detach from the trauma Bond. Move on. Don't look back. we do heal.
2026-10-17 14:07:53
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Ron :
Truth
2026-10-17 06:56:50
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