@owntv: When communication turns into confrontation, is anybody really listening? 👀 Did you watch What Black Men Say vs. What Black Women Hear with #IyanlaVanzant? #OWNSpotlight #iyanlafixmylife #relationships

THIS..IS..SPARTA :

They don't listen to understand. They listen to argue.

Y3SCHF :

James Brown?????????

5FootGiant :

There is no point to these conversations anymore.

Stephanie :

Iyanla is always gonna take a man’s side

J :

What man you know that doesn’t acknowledge the type of man his father was?

bigsauuce :

So you gave an answer that had nothing to do with the question…..

G.p LaSalle jr :

She never answered the question!!!!

TacticHall :

That dude didn’t listen to the question 😂😂😂😂😂

Naturally :

🙋🏽‍♀️crying isnt a defense mechanism.

Joy Seyram :

This is a Perfect case study

Asmodeus :

she never answered the question cus there wasnt even a question yet. just a statement

Daviddb (Margarita DeVil) :

These women don’t listen to hear they listen to respond…

Sherman.Am.I :

they had their paddles up with a defense before he even got to the issue

tynettedanielsmusic :

It’s the generalizing. Not all women cry. Some stand without tears but some then consider that “too masculine”.

DA :

Sighhhhhh

KindredStrawberry :

She need to be asking him what shedding a tear means in his argument…. Because his point sounds weak AF.

❌👨🏾‍💼Bu$ine$$Pro❌1/2Demon :

I love how objective Iyanla Vanzant is. She doesn't take anyone's story at face value, including her own. Most people project instead of reflect: they put their pain onto others rather than ask what it says about themselves. Reflection is uncomfortable, but it's where the healing starts

SoulFulNinja :

and they are laughing That's why they will never correct themselves

leesag70 :

I don’t think she’s being male centered. It feels like she’s trying to point out that this statement she made was not in response to what was asked… so in other words you moving on to the next thing before dealing with what was initially discussed

aggie_princess :

She is not male centered. We need to hear each other if gonna be in relation with each other. It goes both ways.

Jay J :

vee :

They only listen to pastor's and bosses 🤦🏿‍♂️😔😤🏃🏿‍♂️

Emamezi Praises🥶 :

I hate shows like this this women vs men stuff is stupid to me

MyBlackTikTok :

Imma just sit this right here. 😏 🤐

Arny :

He said "women's defense mechanisms" and the women immediately got defensive. Im not the best communicator but i do believe in letting a person get their thoughts out...even if i dont like it & it can definitely be hard!!