@ronan9336: to forgive, reconnection is not necessary. you don't need to let them continue hurting you. true forgiveness is also not justification and denying that you were hurt. to forgive is to let go. it is to stop grasping at straws and thinking about the "what ifs". forgive yourself. don't be so hard on yourself and dwell on the past. take that pain and use it as a way to improve, learn and grow.