Aden686 :
my X went from loving me one day to hating me tge next -ghosted me and our son after he blew up and raged at our 13 yr old son out if blue for some minor thing. son asked him couple questions when he was resting. I jumped up to stop this raging bull not knowing what was happening. he stomped, destroyed things, threw the lawnmower called our son bad names, belittked him demeaned him made him fear imminent i jury. Our neighbor hapoened to walk up in middle of it, tried to calm him down. Boy was fawning dad big time. Dad left a few days w railroad job. I demanded apology fir son, he refused and ghosted. left us in poverty. . 2 yrs later he reaches out to son like nothing hapoened, blames him for divorce, does tgat manipulation, deflecting, and makes up stories that never happened. Son said he accepts hus texts because although it makes him angry, its his dad, so.... Thats not right! Idk how to maneuver this. I understand forgiveness, I understand he has right to have a relationship w his dad, but the boy already is traumatized and will carry baggage of abandonment for life. We struggled in poverty and picking up the pieces of this cognitive dissonance- to come back to sin w/o growth, w/o remorse, w/o accountability- but w blame and manipulation? Nah, thats not right....
2026-10-24 11:50:19