KJ. Freeman
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T :
A “dismissive avoidant” is just a person who’s not that into you
2026-10-19 12:06:55
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they/them/that/gorl :
Genuinely wtf is a “dismissive avoidant”…chai tea????
2026-10-19 04:55:54
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Ayyo.Ayo :
Ppl use it as a way to rationalise rejection instead of just accepting this person doesn’t like you enough to treat you well 🤷🏾♀️
2026-10-19 02:21:49
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im an "avoidant" and i have absolutely no sympathy for the avoidants who insist on getting into relationships. why would u put someone through that??? and yes i became an avoidant because i was abused by one that i was intimate with.
2026-10-19 04:21:49
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keehotcommodity :
Ur not dissmissve avoidant, you just dont like me 😭😭
2026-10-19 13:19:15
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Karma :
You’re right- attachment styles are derived from child psychology in that different parenting style create different attachment styles. People use them as an excuse for poor behavior in interpersonal relationships.
2026-10-19 04:44:13
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moonofscorpi0. :
right cuz they pick and choose who they do this too depending on how much they think they need to respect them based on the hierarchy that person has in their life
2026-10-19 05:18:49
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goldenglow321 :
I knew the attachment styles was complete bs once I treated an avoidant the exact same way he was treating me, and he started to crash out bc he hated it.
2026-10-19 22:52:12
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ih8ithere :
attachment styles are very real but our study of them was meant to influence parenting not dating. once you're an adult attachment style is not an excuse to hurt someone
2026-10-19 08:29:16
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Vegan Academy :
“Things my partner does for me as an avoidant attachment” and it’s just a list of abuse 😂
2026-10-19 12:28:58
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Pisces Moon :
Attachment theory was created in the 80s by John Boulby after he observed infants with their primary caregivers. The Internet took this theory and did what the Internet does with it.
2026-10-19 10:34:41
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$$$$$$$faux :
this was healing actually
2026-10-19 04:00:42
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Nyx 🌙 :
Attachment theory gives you the illusion of controlling a situation you have no control over because people will do what they want regardless. That’s the whole point of attachment theory imho. If I have a framework that instructs me how to influence people’s decisions according to my behavior, I will believe I can hijack their nervous system and control the connection. It took radical acceptance and honesty to understand how immaturely I approached relationships.
2026-10-31 11:12:14
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DemToks :
In short “ I don’t like you holding me accountable for my poor behavior“
2026-10-19 08:16:24
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skittlebars!! :
I have been thinking about this. I thought I was an anxiously attached person but the relationship that made feel like I needed constant reassurance was because he was constantly playing in my face. Once I moved on and learnt to have better boundaries I have not had to deal with being "anxiously attached"
2026-10-19 06:09:30
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Lexi :
This and love languages. It’s all made up lmaoo
2026-10-20 10:32:17
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mirapira2 :
bought Self I Left Behind by Jessica Morgan on a random tuesday when i felt completely hollow. three weeks later i feel like i'm slowly being handed back to myself
2026-10-19 13:59:40
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Dee :
Yes. I believe it’s just that we live under psychopathic governments and social structures and it trickles down into interpersonal relationships.
2026-10-20 11:46:58
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Mc213♒️ :
I’m an avoidant UNTIL ITS SOMEONE I REALLY LIKE FOR REAL. lol. Magically cured lol
2026-10-19 20:50:21
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JamilaD45 :
Absolutely!!! Don’t let fake attachment styles become an excuse for abuse, manipulation and overall bad character
2026-10-19 04:54:00
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merittsdelusion :
Attachment styles do exist as a psychology major. Knowing them is NOT to give empathy it is to understand WHO you are dealing with and LEAVE. If you do start to understand your attachment styles you can lead to a secure attachment which is basically emotional regulation. So yes they are real and yes this video can be HARMFUL.
2026-10-20 01:21:02
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mello.mp3 :
I feel like it’s gotten to the point where people much rather put a name to the issue, rather than actively combating said issue.
2026-10-19 08:13:01
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Mudda💋 :
You cooked I fear
2026-10-19 05:31:43
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_Appeal_ :
It’s still a real thing.
2026-10-20 03:56:45
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Deja Amoral :
I think people take complex concepts and water them down. It’s a psychological theory…not a trendy topic on Tik Tok. I’d highly suggest talking with an expert to get a more accurate understanding of this theory.
2026-10-19 12:52:55
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