You can say 'I didn't mean it that way' and still care that it hurt. Explaining yourself shouldn't take up the entire conversation while they sit there waiting to be heard.
2026-10-19 21:01:22
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Bibleechomedia :
not me reading The Abandoned Laws of Life by Owen Carter in one sitting
2026-10-19 21:55:39
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shaz :
You’re absolutely free to choose not to do any of those things, but you also have to understand that choosing to do nothing has consequences.
2026-10-19 15:40:53
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4 Cxncern :
gf probably saw the first half of this video and dipped
2026-11-02 20:22:19
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Danielle Adams :
Riddle me this, my man and I are stuuuuuuck. He’s generally a very happy and positive person. Even when something happens to make him unhappy, he can compartmentalize it and proceed with his happy day in a happy mood. Now me……I’m a dark and moody person. Chronic depression since I was a teen. Unresponsive to SSRI’s. Now I’m 43. Perimenopause. Anxiety. Adhd. All the things. He’s very patient. Loves me very much. But is growing weary of my “moods”. If he texts me and finds me in a mood, he will say something like “awww, I’m sorry dear. I love you” and then he will do what he does. Positivity, Instagram reels with comedy in them, songs to convey that he loves me, etc. But refuses to engage with the feelings I’m having. Won’t ask questions about why, won’t sit with me in my darkness. And he says he’s the healthier one for this. He says anybody should want to move out of negativity quickly. But it leaves me feeling alone and abandoned Every. Single. Time. And I find myself making the darkness even darker until he will take the time to notice me. Which always leads to a fight.
2026-10-19 18:05:25
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northrose :
Love is a verb
2026-10-19 16:24:25
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Astarinthenight⭐️ :
Feelings are always valid. We can’t help our feelings but our actions is what can not be valid based on the severity of action to a small problem. You can’t tell yourself to not feel sad or angry because that’s not how our emotions work. The only thing in our control is our reactions to those emotions.
2026-10-19 19:27:11
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IndustriousHobbit :
This feels like the relationship equivalent of what I tend to tell my teen when they are avoiding brushing their teeth: "Look, you ONLY have to brush the teeth you want to keep."
2026-10-20 03:54:56
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Emmakate :
Honestly words are words . Actions is the only truth
2026-10-19 18:37:21
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Beezus2021 :
"Love languages" are so vital to be aware of.
hugs to all warriors doing relationship⚡🌸.
2026-10-19 17:09:32
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Deborahs_Galaxy :
yes!
you don't have to do any of those things. and I don't have to stay in a relationship where those things aren't available.
I've also started thinking of Love as an internal affective state rather than an external behavior- like if you love me, that's something you're experiencing inside of YOU and it actually doesn't inherently have any tangible effect on me. Like If you love me, I think it's a wonderful thing you get to experience, but what actually affects *me* is what you DO and how you interact with me, regardless of whether you feel love toward me or not.
It has helped me make sense of situations where " I know they love me, but this doesn't feel like love??"
2026-10-19 20:19:49
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Benji🦘 :
Sometimes the optional things are what is required to make things run properly
2026-10-19 15:32:48
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azcoze7 :
Why is it so hard to find love in this day and age? I feel that men just want the “Easy Button.”
2026-10-21 00:57:02
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JukeBlue2012 :
@knit momma: Just love your message! Thank you
2026-10-23 02:48:16
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JenniferH :
Truth, 20 years of this and now he is shocked I am “separating” myself 😳
2026-10-20 01:49:04
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rhony636 :
I love you and appreciate all that you do for me. But no connection, no recognition of the other partners needs, no communication. But I’m being disrespectful!
2026-10-20 13:13:24
1
Don :
It’s as simple as that …. if it’s not that way then leave …
2026-10-19 18:57:28
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Corissa Morales :
Love is something you do, not feel.
2026-10-20 00:14:50
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Moi :
Yes, and the awful part is that men WILL neglect ALL those things& still demand sex & throw fit when she says no.
2026-10-20 10:31:30
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TK :
You
2026-10-19 21:00:36
1
user6517375763844 :
hard to find
2026-10-19 20:32:21
1
JamesRivertotheSea• Friend :
are you telling me that I waited 35 years.. ugh
2026-10-22 04:14:01
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Michael Flywacker :
I'm consistently inconsistent
2026-10-19 19:24:39
1
Gear :
I wish my evil shi would see this
2026-10-20 11:12:25
1
Nat :
It is reality if they don’t like you I guess. I’m over it . I really don’t care anymore
2026-10-20 03:14:38
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