@samshealingpodcast: Why is it that when a betrayed partner tries to express their pain, the unfaithful partner gets defensive? Instead of listening, they explain. Instead of taking accountability, they justify. And suddenly, the betrayed partner finds themselves defending their feelings when they're the ones who were hurt in the first place. Here's the thing: Defensiveness doesn't always come from a place of not caring. Sometimes, it's rooted in shame, fear, childhood experiences, and an inability to sit with uncomfortable emotions. But understanding where defensiveness comes from doesn't mean we're excusing it. You can't rebuild trust if you're constantly defending yourself against the pain you've caused. In this episode of Sam's Healing Podcast, I sit down with psychotherapists Michael Webb, LPC, and Amanda Asproni, MA, LMHC, to unpack why unfaithful partners become defensive, how it impacts the betrayed partner, and what it actually takes to break that cycle. If you're a betrayed partner struggling to feel heard, or an unfaithful partner who genuinely wants to change but keeps getting caught in defensiveness, this conversation is for you. 🎙️ Watch our full conversation on Sam's Healing Podcast on YouTube, link in bio. #BetrayalTrauma #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterInfidelity #UnfaithfulPartner #BetrayedPartner #AffairRecovery #SamsHealingPodcast

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