@upspiral.life: Six signs you're in an emotionally mature relationship. Number three is where most couples get it wrong. Follow me, then comment UPSPIRAL and I'll send you some more information about my brand new manifestation program, the Up Spiral Lab. You can also click the link in my bio. One. You don't panic when they don't text back. You know they're probably just living life. It's a quiet confidence. You're not anxiously refreshing your phone because you trust the connection. Two. You can share silence without making it awkward. Sitting on the couch together, each doing your own thing in peace. Polyvagal theory tells us co-regulation and connection don't always require words. Three. You fight, you fix, and then you drop it. Not because you're saints. Holding grudges over who left the sponge in the sink is exhausting. Strong couples don't avoid fights, they patch things up quickly after. Four. Your quirks are compatible. Couples don't need to erase each other's quirks. They last longer when they make space for each other's idiosyncrasies. Five. You know each other's bad moods and allow space for them. Healthy couples can tell the difference between "my partner is in a bad mood" and "my relationship is in danger." Six. You have in-jokes that aren't funny to anyone else. And you don't care. You're not auditioning for Comedy Central, you're just weirdos in love. Inside jokes build intimacy and increase oxytocin.
