unicorn_qkween :
The version of you that you don’t want to be is the version that they need. Parenting is not all about making you happy. They are the way that they are now because you allowed it and enabled it. TRUST ME. I KNOW. My son was headed in the same direction a few years ago. It broke my heart to have to step back and allow him to fail and fck up. I was doing too much for him and creating a loser. I’m talking about he was late to school not maintaining his appearance, not doing his work, getting fired from every little job, just not doing anything. I told him if you can’t clean the room that IM LENDING YOU, I will repossess the door and anything I find out of place will be thrown in the trash. No questions asked. Late to school? I’m not taking you. You will have to walk, find your own way or flunk out and repeat the year. You can’t clean up after yourself, I will give/buy you nothing and cook nothing for you either. Not doing your work? If you fail the year, you will go to military school , or go live with your father. No bums or losers in my house. Etc etc. the first few days, he thought I was playing. He didn’t clean his dishes, he had to eat peanut butter for 2 days straight. Got constipated af. Didn’t get up for school on time even though I can hear his alarms going off… WALK! And NO you can’t stay in my house. You can’t come back in here until school is over. Saw his room was a mess, I went in there with a trash bag and put EVERYTHING in it. Room was naked. I even put the blanket in the bag cuz it was in the floor. He came home, door was gone and room was naked. I least him believe I threw it out. Two weeks later, I I saw the change but I stayed quiet about it because I want him to maintain it. Now? He’s in college AND working. Getting great grades and handling all his affairs in time. Adversity is character building. YOU MUST STEP BACK. THEY NEED WHO YOU DONT WANT TO BE. because they’re taking you for granted. Find joy in something else. Otherwise, you’ll release losers into the world.
2026-10-23 14:33:40