@iam_thatfriend: Children who become the family peacekeeper are required to, and oftentimes, they learn this, before they learn to ride a bike. Maybe that was you. You could tell from the footsteps in the hallway what kind of night it would be. You knew when to make a joke, when to disappear to your room, when to bring a parent coffee and say exactly the right thing. The adults started the fires. You were the one running for water. And if you failed, if the yelling started anyway, somehow it landed on you. You should have stayed quiet. You should have known better. You made it worse. No child can keep the peace in a house where the grown-ups keep breaking it. That job was never possible. It was never yours. But the habit stays. As an adult, you still scan rooms. You still rush to fix moods that aren't your responsibility. You feel sick when people around you are upset, as if their storm were your failure. It isn't. You can put down the bucket. Those fires were never yours to put out. ❤️ Save this for the next time someone else's mood becomes your job. 💬 What did you do as a child to keep the peace at home? 🔄 Share this with someone who was the family peacekeeper. “Family Roles” is free in the Healing Library, link in the About section. You deserve a place to land that no one can take away. Just in case my posts ever stop showing up in your feed, don't wait to realize it. You can go follow me now, on Substack, Patreon, YouTube and TikTok, or find the Healing Library, so we never lose each other. #IAmThatFriend #ToxicFamily #FamilyRoles #TraumaHealing #ComplexPTSD #troublemakertheresa

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