@alanwatts.philosophy.way: Why Defending Yourself Backfires #chasehughes #psychology #trauma #manifestation #neurology

taatu :

so true

Jamie Blackwood :

I disagree, I stood up to a narcissistic boss, who made me extremely ill, took him to court and won.

jacquelinemorris88 :

This is why i just detach and move on most of the time .

amy :

I realised from my teenage years that holding a mirror up to anyone attracts the strongest reaction and payback. It’s only as I got older with the strength and freedom to ignore and move away from toxic people that gave me freedom.

orrangegirrl :

Standing up is mirroring them back…

Jill :

Most of the time, of the people where reasenable you wouldn’t have to stand up for yourself.

Savethfukinbees :

I learned this a long time ago. The best way to avoid an argument is not to participate. If you know you're right, then you don't need validation. I even went so far as to accept my role as the villain. This left them speechless, because they expected me to push back. The moment I was able to admit my supposed character flaws though, the bottom fell out. There's nothing wrong with being a heel. Wrestlers have been doing this for years! In truth, it felt oddly satisfying to be the evil one!

Jen :

Absolutely and I always end up crying hysterically

TrueLight :

NO TIME WASTED. STATE IT. MOVE. 💯

Dunkin fan :

This is gold

Lee :

This is the best explanation of conflict that I have ever heard.

guyfawkes :

But when you said unreasonable people, were you talking about some men and all women basically? Or im wrong here

emmanueldkayaba :

Hmmm , thank you 😊 for sharing with the community... 🙏

AkiAki000000 :

Kürzlich wieder passiert 🙄 ich hasse es

tomgocke :

this is what I hear you say in a poker game and you find someone cheating you do not keep playing you stop playing

Balance Mindset-SH :

Done

titsokas :

VIRAGOCALIBER :

bang on

Wayzy :

Are you Rick Cutler?

TMcMe :

A terrible cycle

Loom Engine Room :

Dude, I got into a high conflict and this shit was totally true. Just say things like I’m sorry you feel that way, understood won’t happen again etc.

@Profile Cheack_sa_Glamgirl :

But I don't know how to set boundries

👍🇨🇦 :

Yes. I realize this now.

christinepatton21 :

So should we just say something like I see. Or I understand and walk away politely.

no :

Now that’s what dumb abusive men think standing up for themselves is.