The Pottymouth Guru
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Friday 23 October 2026 01:38:13 GMT
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MillieMayhiem :
Me!! It’s so frustrating. I need to get the skill sets to change behavior! You are amazing btw!
2026-10-23 01:54:06
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linaharperhello 🌈 :
i threatened break up every time conflict came up. my current partner helped me realize it hurt him like hell. we heal in love.
2026-10-30 00:36:42
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Rick :
Long time listener, First time caller: I have a habit of getting defensive of my actions, and retreating from the conflict, which causes my husband to feel abandoned and start chasing me. I've been to therapy, consumed months' worth of online content like yours, learned a lot of my behaviours and how to recognize them. I can usually dissect the source of the behaviour and where I detoured afterwards. but none of that changes the behaviour, or helps me stop it any better the next time.
2026-10-25 19:42:42
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Polished Perspective 🇨🇦 :
I liken it to knowing I have adhd, knowing what challenges that brings, understanding why I struggle with executive function and task paralysis, knowing what I should do to make things easier, but still struggling 95% of the time to make it happen. Thankfully, I have successfully conquered my attachment wounds and no longer feel attacked or defensive. I struggle a bit with betrayal trauma, but that is fairly new, and a work in progress. Still I am miles ahead of where I ever hoped to be.
2026-10-23 02:03:33
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Ostolove :
Dealing with real or perceived rejection!
2026-10-23 02:00:44
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MamaB :
So about 30% of the time, I am not successful when he gets defensive at staying calm when he can’t see his patterns and he turns it around on me. Sometimes I can stay completely calm but other times I cannot it’s so frustrating to me! And if he walks away, I still chase… I’m working on it! I know part of it has to do with feeling alone, currently about to go on a birthday trip by myself… practicing being OK being alone!
2026-10-23 12:02:40
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majanke1 :
Blame. I had a very critical mother. My mother in law is controlling and critical, and we do not like each other. Years of trauma from that because my husband has never stuck up for me and prioritizes his mom, she is becoming a nuisance because he won’t set boundaries. I tend to blame all of them for my hurt, (which is justified) and I am having a hard time letting go of the past and ruminate over my fears of the future. thinking my MIL will take over our lives. I am in therapy working on this, but I’m having a very difficult time. In the past I would get flooded and shut down, or on the flip side, when I start talking it comes out like word vomit and I lose my shit. at least we have begun taking about it, it’s easier to be angry and shut down than hurt and disappointed.
2026-10-24 12:41:51
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geminimoon99 :
what's your eyeshadow? it is mesmerizing
2026-10-23 02:51:53
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user9025190641213 :
please, mentioning the problem is great but where is the solution? where are the skills? please don't be one of those therapists on tik tok that mentions the problems but never gives the solution.
2026-10-23 04:20:44
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JessicaGates8 :
I really struggle knowing I’m an anxious attacher but I can’t seem to stop letting my anxious thoughts run away with my whole nervous system when I’m activated. 🫤
2026-10-23 02:56:36
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Thin Air :
Reacting to frustration from another person, I get so butt hurt and avoidant (Sometimes I physically can't speak louder, I struggle to reach even if I want to). I fear anger like the plague. I'm aware it has do with self-confidence, autonomy and most of all for me self-trust.
2026-10-30 00:29:27
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cm15 :
It’s not about “having” the time it’s about “taking” the time
2026-10-23 11:32:30
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BoobyGrow :
The brutality of it all 😅😅😅
2026-11-01 20:05:13
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Jo :
getting defensive making change in myself and motivation. I understand why but for some reason I just cannot make myself change and I just want to know how
2026-10-23 12:53:55
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Thin Air :
I look forward to more videos on this!
2026-10-30 00:26:41
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The Pottymouth Guru :
I’m curious… how many of you have done YEARS of work on yourselves but still find yourselves thinking, “I know WHY I do this, but how the HECK do I actually stop?” 👇
2026-10-23 01:40:16
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talktotaylor.therapy :
🚩See licensed healthcare professionals. You learn the skills in therapy; it’s not just understanding. “You’ve done therapy” is painfully common misinformation that puts people in harms way.
2026-10-23 02:23:20
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Kerry D 🇨🇦 :
❤️❤️❤️
2026-10-24 11:30:04
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