@newbeginningspsychology: #cptsd #ptsd #complextrauma #truama #traumatok

kittycat_lover_2 :

Searched years for a mother in other people. What could that mean please?

Piet Kaldenberg370 :

I was unwanted, abused, abandoned and ill treated. Had a lot of therapy but still have trouble healing and triggers make me feel very bad sometimes.

Jessrose :

The one thing I really grieve (not regret, it had been a really difficult but conscious choise) is never becoming a mom, because of my mental problems 🫶

Tim Bledsoe: US Veteran 🇺🇲 :

I experience that, then mom was diagnosed with dementia and sadly she passed from diamentia in February of 2023. I was her primary caregiver. I had to become her parent. I all still effects me.

Linda 🇿🇦 :

yes I'm there now. only now at the age of 64 am I realising how neglected I was when I was young. and it's affected me badly. only now am a helaing

mindopen13 :

Augusta Lee :

And also grieve the person You Could Have Been if you had confidence and belief in self and possibly. Had we gotten that validation and love - had we not been left alone, maybe we’d not need to grieve Time lost to Fear.

mujahed :

Are we gonna talk about how to heal that ?

GEN X reddawn :

this for me has haunted me my entire life and I carriedit down to my children

Solarstar readings :

Healing through EMDR these days

Em :

My father passed when I was 3 and my mother is a narcissist. So 😏😏

Star Santa Cruz :

💯me ! Neglect from both, dads past that was easy. Moms still alive no contact 40 years- I know the day is coming …. Don’t know how to grieve her alive. Just came to terms she’ll never be the mother I deserved.

karinasienaert :

This resonates with me.

Lisa :

I'm fiercely independent as living through this.

Katruli :

I have had to cut my mother off my life. It is really painful and I feel guilty and scared because she is almost 80 years old. But I feel I have to mourn the fact I never had a mother for me to be someday able to mourn for her passing. It is very confusing and hard.

Felicity💞 :

What about all of the above but also become mum to your siblings (twins age6 me 12) when dad left the home and mum just screamed and worked and I was now mum to my brothers!!

evolutiondecorators :

But they didn’t. But it is what it is

vinniepaul03 :

Lost my Mum unexpectedly at 9. Then had an emotionally unavailable alcoholic father.

Leah :

I grieved my dad years before he died. I was only sad at his funeral because he was the first major loss for my nephew, and watching him experience that was heart wrenching. If I’m being completely honest, I was relieved when he died.

saraherodin :

tbh I don’t think this ever really heals

R.S.R.S. :

💯. emotionally, it is extremely confusing. there is trauma mixed with grief and some form of love. I experienced emotional neglect after a serious medical diagnosis. but, creating distance has helped. I don't think you can heal and manage the neglect.

That Chick From Texas :

I was the family scapegoat and it effed me up badly. I'm still trying to cope with it in my mid fifties.

Forgotme :

I went through that a couple years ago in regards to my mother. My dad was the best.

Sam :

This past year has really opened my eyes to the fact that my biomom never wanted me and resents my existence.

maryhadalittlejam :

The grief never goes away. I just had to learn how to make space for it. Still learning.