@spence.and.sensibility: Disclaimers are not always as reassuring as you think they are! The next time you want to say, “But you don’t have to!” or “It’s okay to say no,” stop yourself and see what happens. Try making requests and offers and expressing desires WITHOUT the disclaimers for a while, and instead, just show a willingness to handle rejection well. If someone DOES give you an answer that you don’t want to hear, increase their trust in you through your actions, by reacting maturely. But don’t put a rejection into their brain before they’ve even had a chance to think it! Observe how the perception of the people around you alters as you reduce the amount of disclaimers that you give. Because their perception of you WILL change, and I feel confident that it will change positively. #wlw #relationships #dating #lesbian #psychology