@nellz__bellz: When he suddenly pulls away after everything was going so well… 💋 Anxious attachment might have you questioning what you did wrong. But earned secure attachment teaches you to stop personalizing someone else’s emotional inconsistency. Sometimes avoidant attachment patterns show up when emotional intimacy increases. But understanding someone’s attachment style doesn’t mean abandoning your own needs. Secure dating isn’t about getting him back to who he was. It’s about paying attention to who he’s showing you he is NOW. You can have empathy for someone’s attachment wounds AND have standards for how you’re treated. That’s the difference between anxious attachment and earned secure attachment. 🦋 #EarnedSecureAttachment #AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #SecureAttachment

🖖🏻✨JULAYA✨🖖🏻 :

Okay but is the cat real 👀 didn’t move once!

PGM :

I pulled away the minute he started to act weird by going silent on me. He noticed and then texted me asking what’s wrong. I confronted him on how his behavior made me feel. He apologized and said I was right and asked for second chance. I decided to give him a second chance to meet again, but we never met again because of his inconsistent communication and him telling me that it’s not right for us to meet anymore if he’s going to continue disappearing on me. So I didn’t reply to his message yet he still watches all my stories on social media even though we don’t talk anymore.

kayla :

I blocked him. Highly recommend

k8 :

A few months into my relationship with my ex, I told him I loved him. He had a panic attack and vomited. That should’ve been the sign.

ashleysimprint :

Yes I’ve had disorganized attachment and moved toward secure attachment a year ago. I’ve been on all sides of this and my attachment switch up was always based off the personality of the guy. Secure attachment just FEELS different, it feels healthy, it even at first feels boring. Then you begin to realize you’ve matured into loving you, making decisions based off your own greater good and the good of your partner

Sheila ☀️ :

This just happened, I bought him a small gift and it has been awkward, and I love to gift to many people that I care about. Also seriously what is wrong with me? It is so hard to hear your insanely amazing advice with the music in the background. Is there anyway I can turn that down 🫣

princessfluffybunz :

I needed this thank you

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Mage ✨ :

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