@rachaelrelationshipcoach: You don't struggle with boundaries because you lack confidence. You struggle because you can't stand the three seconds after you say no: the silence, the sigh, the shift in tone. Next time you're about to say yes, ask yourself: "Am I agreeing, or am I avoiding their reaction?" Knowing this is step one. Staying steady while someone is disappointed is a skill, and it's hard to build alone.