@anthonywayneallen1: Most think in a group setting but a group doesn't let u deal with your datkness....only u can answer the questions about yourself. U have to identify your darkness then u can get group sipport...its easier to pick up what u need when u know what u need it for..a group can help u identify your darkness and give diffrent solutions but only u can so anything avout it...self discovery can be dark,extremely dark and sometimes that darkness never dies. It becomes a responsility u must learn to carry It. When u become aware of the hurt and pain and u identify tha t source of pain sometimes there is no healing that wound it becomes your responsibility of how u will carry that darkness...u either continue to let it continue to fester and become infected in which u become bitter angry and impossible to l Iove or you let the darkness make you hurt others wether physically or mentaly...we blame others for hurting us and we can heal but how do u learn to carry such pain? Carrying your pain diffrently means changing definitions,thought process,and behaviors..first u have to understand yourself that takes rigorous honesty and patience and u have to believe your not powerless and you have patience with the world around you as well as yourself..whwn u change your definitions you can change your experiance because your not broken but your lens might be cracked .if the lens was built it can be rebuilt. How.do u rebuild your lens? By small positive actions . Nothing big. Simple opening the door for a stranger, or purposely catch yourself bieng negative and correcting yourself...slowly those small actions create evidence and its those small acts of positivity will begin to build a new lens in wich u will see life through. Negative acts cause negative evidence which can build a lens in which everything looks negstive...building a positive lens gives you a better chance of succeeding because a negative lens can keep someone stuck because they dont thibk they can do it or thry are afraid to fail so thry won't even try but a positive lens allows a person to be willing to take the risk it takes to succeed. That's where self perception can make or break you. Learn to see your process of thinkkng ....turn that lens inward a d see what makes you feel like you do and u will see the power in you. God bless the freaks!
