my name is mustard smish
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Gaven :
GIRL YOU WERE IN A WHOLE MOVIE ABOUT THIS
2026-10-26 04:39:00
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ThePrincessAndThePoppers :
I’m a cis, gay man and I’m definitely more traditionally feminine. But I still grow out my facial hair. And I don’t shave body hair. I work at a gay bar and sometimes customers ask me, “Why don’t you shave your legs if you’re gonna wear mini skirts?” Or “I’m surprised you have a beard sometimes.” And to me, that’s so odd because I’m just doing and wearing what I enjoy. But there are lots of people in the queer community that still think you should be fully masc or fully femme. And it’s weird to experience because they accept the fact that men can be feminine and women can be masculine, but they don’t full grasp the concept of it being a spectrum.
2026-10-26 01:21:22
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oh you are gonna EAT THE FUCK outta this role on HR
2026-10-26 02:16:57
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nick ★ LMB LIKERS DNI :
the patriarchy traps us all
2026-10-26 00:41:05
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Kristopher :
the demonization of masculinity in queer spaces has also lead to the alienation of transgender men from the community. I don’t feel at home in my own community because me being masculine presenting is seen as dangerous, despite my presentation not being toxic.
2026-10-26 03:23:11
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Pip :
I’m a trans dude and i’ve been struggling with the amount that gender essentialism bleeding into so many conversations. I really appreciate this video and how much it nails my current complicated relationship with my own masculinity.
2026-10-26 00:58:06
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VeeGiggity 🇦🇺 Acrylic Artist :
I think one of the main issues is that society at large struggles to accept that the way a person expresses their gender can be fluid. There’s an expectation that, whichever side of the binary they think you fall on, you’re supposed to perform that gender expression wholly and without deviation. But the way we experience and express gender, particularly as queer people, can be fluid and amorphous. It can be experimental, contradictory, and constantly evolving. I think that, because of the societal pressure to, for lack of a better term, “pick a side,” even the queer community can sometimes fall prey to that same kind of rigid thinking.
2026-10-26 01:17:08
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em :
as a woman, sometimes I feel like my more masculine traits or interests are belittled or seen as performative because that’s “not my place” whereas my more feminine traits and interests are belittled because femininity in so often looked down on in society. it’s like damned if you do damned if you don’t. I’ve also spoken to my friends who are queer men and it’s almost as if being queer makes people in society reject general traits of masculinity, but being men makes society reject their feminine traits, so it’s a similar experience of “can’t win either way.”
2026-10-26 01:14:13
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Propular :
I’m nonbinary and AFAB and before I identified as such I felt so restricted to both not be too masculine and also not be too “girly”. Now that I’m more comfortable in my queer identity, I personally feel like I’m more free to dress super masculine and super feminine but I do feel this crazy pressure from people outside of me to not dress too feminine as it seems like some sort of “anti-androgyny” because femininity aligns with me being AFAB in a traditional societal way. I agree with you that the goal is people just express their gender in however they want and we can eventually leave this strict binary behind and let people be themselves without these strict boxes.
2026-10-28 20:52:47
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Fool of a Took :
Trans masc here, it was so much more freeing when I realized I can define masculinity how I want to for myself and I don’t have to fit into the hypermasculine stereotypes that don’t feel like me. I very much value my experience having been raised and lived as a woman, and I feel better when there’s a connection with the feminine traits that I do enjoy. I also IDed as nonbinary for a while and that taught me a lot about being able to follow what feels good to me. Femininity doesn’t cancel out my masculine identity. There are lots of masc traits that bring me a lot of joy. I have a very similar view of masculinity and femininity that you were talking about at the start. Masculinity doesn’t have to be toxic, and nontoxic masculinity should be celebrated and encouraged as much as femininity is nowadays. There’s so much more nuance than one or the other being bad or undesirable. Masculinity feels like coming home, and I want to celebrate that too
2026-10-28 20:53:29
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aurorawithinfinityaura :
we love you can’t wait to see u in heated rivalry
2026-10-26 00:16:55
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cantstopwillow :
As a trans woman I relate to that experience of being told that you are faking or something. Sometimes I feel self conscious about indulging in hobbies and things that are traditionally considered masculine like gaming for example. I have to remind myself to not let other people’s preconceptions of gender to define me
2026-10-26 01:24:56
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.sh4rkn4do :
youre so cool mustard smish
2026-10-26 00:16:42
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Red :
see what I don't understand why these traits are masculine or feminine
2026-10-28 09:06:25
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ShopMama :
i think i’m in love with him mr neck neck
2026-10-27 00:20:23
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kristenthings :
i will say that as a queer woman, i think the reason i find myself liking the company or entertainment of queer men or their stories, is because of their comfortability in being authentic. a lot of straight cis men (in my life) hide behind toxicity.
2026-10-26 00:40:59
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Riley Westling :
loved this 🧚🏼♂️
2026-10-28 02:49:02
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Storypaint :
I find this really interesting. Realizing you’re queer can still be a box because of how others perceive you.
2026-10-27 04:04:00
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FC :
Im so glad you didnt let people dismissing your fluidness and queerness ruin your self worth. it takes a lot to be that strong ♡
2026-10-26 00:42:54
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🌻☀️Lexi Sun ☀️🌻 :
Big agree that there is demonization of masculinity and idolization of femininity going on, still unnecessarily and strictly drawing the divides between the two, that is still based in misogyny but flipped from how it was, like, ten years ago. As an AFAB person who identifies as agender, it’s been really interesting to examine what parts of these identities I feel compelled to perform, which I enjoy, and which I’m attracted to.
2026-10-26 03:08:01
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havik.vrc :
I never felt more comfortable in femininity then when I transitioned to a man, unironically. I stopped feeling like I was performing.
2026-10-26 01:35:19
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GarboGrey 🆘🇺🇸 :
The rigid gender binary is a prison and a lie. We’re all better off, and more authentic, without it.
2026-10-26 01:59:39
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🎭✍️ :
being a pre-t trans guy is difficult. i feel like i have to keep my hair super short, and i havent painted my nails in years. i wish i could balance, but in the root of homophobia and transphobia, it's like there are these invisible rules that keep me to these hypermasculine standards, otherwise my identity is invalid. maybe in another universe everyone is encouraged to embrace feminine and masculine qualities in any quantity with no judgement
2026-10-26 02:14:30
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saulito23 :
I recently said that, after years of having to edit yourself, and build a persona while in the closet…. You, to a certain extent become that version of yourself…the man that society wants you to be…. And when you finally accept who you are and embrace the more feminine traits that you hid…. You have to start integrating that….. and allowing yourself to express that because it’s authentically you…. But at the same time, the More traditional masculine traits that you learned over the years….. are also authentic at this point. I attended an all boys Catholic High school that, luckily, stressed the importance of love and compassion and emotional intelligence as important traits for men to cultivate.
2026-10-26 00:51:39
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mad :
as a cis woman, as a kid, I grew up not being relegated to any particular norms between masc/fem other than knowing I should act more "ladylike" as a child, I remember thinking "what does that mean?" to know I've been labeled a girl, isn't that the end of the discussion? So I had some resentment that there was some tacit knowledge I wasn't being given about how I was "supposed " to act and yet, never directly discussed. I genuinely believe it made me shed or disregard gender norms early and it likely created a mentality in me that "I'm not like other girls" early. now as an adult, there is an acknowledgement that was never the correct assessment, it was "I'm a person who had a personality." I often wonder how many people's true self had been buried underneath just being forced to exist within their assigned gender norm behavior.
2026-10-26 00:58:35
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