@mind_yourboundaries: What would you do if this was your husband and you were now relegated to talking about dry topics, all because he can’t respect your desire for privacy? It’s much easier to put a coworker, friend, or even our mothers-in-law on an information diet, but your own spouse?! That would be very challenging for me. And like I said, I was like Janice’s husband in the beginning of our marriage. We’d go to Ryan’s family’s house for whatever, I’d be nervous and just blab about ALL our personal stuff. It was so hard on Ryan, and for a while I couldn’t understand why. I just thought it was all relatable, everyone’s been there, etc. But then I learned something important. It’s okay if I don’t think something is a big deal, but if it’s a really big deal to him, then I, as his partner and trusted confidant, need to respect that. It’s a skill that can be learned. So partnering up with a licensed couples therapist is what I’d do. Psychology Today is one option. It’s a free directory where you can search for a therapist in your area. NOT SPONSORED. PSA: This story was shared by one of you for educational and reflective purposes only. It’s not meant to replace advice or treatment from licensed professionals. #boundaries #marriageadvice #relationshipadvice #trustme #storytime
Jess- Your Boundary Big Sister
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Monday 26 October 2026 11:28:04 GMT
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kristycaley :
You stop talking to him about stuff you don’t want spread around.
2026-10-26 14:15:29
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Heavy Metal Momma 🍉🍉🇬🇧 :
You stop telling him & you decide if you can say married. He's getting enjoyment from making her look bad to other people, that would show me he doesn't love me. She asked him to stop & to maintain confidentiality, he's actively choosing to disrespect her. For me I'd end it
2026-10-26 12:32:30
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ㅅ 𝓙𝓲𝓶 𝓜𝓮𝔂𝓮𝓻𝓼 ㅅ :
just voice how it makes you feel. He continues the behavior, you have your answer. its pretty simple relationship problem. you set boundaries, if theyre not respected, you move on.
2026-10-26 13:16:22
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Julia Irzyk ♿️ :
you leave. you have to trust your partner. better late than never
2026-11-04 22:22:52
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debrar660 :
If she has not had a direct conversation with him, this would be step one. I would tell him that our conversations are private and the expectation is that it stay between us. If he’s unsure about whether he can share, he should ask. Tell him his sharing their private conversations make her unable to trust him. If she can’t trust him that could be a deal breaker.
2026-10-30 15:20:11
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Brittany Fey :
I had to tell him that he couldn't tell anyone about the conversation or he will mention it to his sister. [Innocent]
2026-11-01 10:43:46
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Momof4inFL :
Maybe test him by prefacing that the conversation is strictly between the two of you, so he is clear that you don’t want what you’re saying spoken about to others. Tell him something that you don’t mind if others know, in case this doesn’t work. But maybe with him knowing up front, he will respect your wishes. However, after almost 40 years, I’m sure you’ve done this. Therapy is probably the best answer. Though I feel gossip isn’t really rich, meaningful conversations.
2026-10-29 18:11:56
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cate273 :
This is my life. I never tell him anything about important things I don’t want shared.
2026-10-29 17:18:35
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Kittie :
31 years married. Cannot have a real convo with hubby because every single time, he attacks. Me, the person, the ideology, the topic. It gets annoying defending everything. I have just stopped talking about anything important. I have to approach every problem with caution. I wish I could talk to him about anything, but it always ends up in a monolog or weird redhat conspiracy theory.
2026-10-30 17:30:03
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Hoax :
If you can't trust your spouse, then there's no point in staying married
2026-11-03 18:45:01
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silver01 :
1. you stop sharing information with him. 2. as a result of that the relationship dies. 3. then you get a divorce. you can skip to step three right now if you'd like. 🤷♀️
2026-10-26 12:34:57
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sierra~recoveryqueensoberboss :
Absolutely not her husband is a big mouth and it is a very very big deal and in your shoes I would never have married him because we all deserve spouses we can trust with our lives and our secrets. Jen it's time to tell your husband to keep your conversations between you both or you will need to divorce him. Then you test him out for a few weeks or couple months, talk to him and keep track. Then make your decision. Therapy and a meaningful conversation first!!!!
2026-10-31 00:17:19
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Karen1701 :
You let it "accidentally" slip to everyone you know, that he has erectile dysfunction and it is so embarrassing! He will be mad and mortified, but he might understand the issue of privacy with a little more care in the future.
2026-10-30 13:44:34
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