Matthias J Barker
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Monday 26 October 2026 23:02:58 GMT
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Danean :
I actually got nicer. I healed, my kids are free. My life couldn’t be better!
2026-10-27 00:36:23
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DavidPastel :
I am as nice and sweet and welcoming as always. But I now have extremely clear boundaries that I have absolutely no issue enforcing.
2026-10-27 21:44:10
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Kathryn Saltz342 :
I think sometimes the “mean” person is the middle version. At least for me, learning to speak up has been *messy,* and at first I *can* be mean. I’m angry. I’m over it. And I’m learning to not bottle it up, and it’s…not pretty. I think the problem is that stopping there would be easy. It would feel safe. Learning that I don’t have to be scary and mean to also protect myself is where I’m at now.
2026-10-30 14:30:49
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Heather Munn :
The healed me stopped caring about others who didn’t care about me. I care for underprivileged people and don’t care about the hierarchy of the corporate world… I am meaner, but meaner to those who don’t care
2026-10-30 11:40:48
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Veni. Vidi. Amavi. :
Heavily agree.
2026-10-28 10:08:03
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Mara Sinclair :
Yes. The goal isn't to swing from pleasing everyone to trusting no one. It's finding the middle where you can be kind and still keep yourself.
2026-10-28 03:18:59
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Katie :
I am a person who struggles with confrontation, but I know this has caused me to hold onto things and while I know I could be better healed if I brought up things in the past, I just often think "well it was long ago, do they remember, how will they respond, etc" and instead I avoid which I know helps no one, but I am still afraid.
2026-10-29 03:10:23
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Jomomasmile77🇨🇦 :
As someone who confronted the disfunction and toxic unhealthy behaviour, 7 years on I haven’t stopped caring but I feel like I only have so many drops left in my bucket & trying to not be flooded by others and their misery and messy lives and situations.
2026-10-27 02:15:07
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Not_Just_Kara :
Love this lol. I just said to my sister that choosing love takes MUCH more strength.
2026-10-28 12:12:29
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Jon McGuire :
When you’re nice to yourself you’re nice to others
2026-10-27 02:15:51
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Becca :
Thanks algorithm (this was the first video when i opwned tiktok). I feel thoroughly slapped in the face with facts lol
2026-10-27 17:11:10
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Donnie :
Perfect...
2026-10-29 21:07:37
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love.and.light.2.all :
It is obvious but it seems it is exclusive to the estranged adult children! That’s where it becomes foggy! Just as often, the parent recognizes this as it resonates with them! Love them, but protect oneself from their abuse!
2026-10-26 23:42:03
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user7972587989741 :
Agree
2026-10-27 00:03:42
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meghansyme :
And if the other part of confrontation is combative as all get out? Next step
2026-10-27 01:25:44
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Thumbbody :
Yes it is !!!!
2026-10-27 00:44:57
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Honey :
100%
2026-10-27 14:39:33
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TeddJeanSilverStone :
You have to care for yourself.
2026-10-27 02:21:45
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Angelic one :
I have such tolerance!! BUT if something needs to be said set straight yea I do that
2026-10-27 03:44:15
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chelsea_energymastery :
Also lean into radical acceptance with those who are just not aligned with you. Trying to express yourself to the people who have proven they will never understand or willing to hold space for a different truth or POV, can function as self-sabotage. Acknowledge, then set a boundary with yourself.
2026-10-27 04:50:44
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Hope :
I’ve definitely stepped into this narrative ❤️
2026-10-27 08:34:26
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🤍Kaliegh🤍 :
Wellll, I'll be❤️🤍💙
2026-10-27 09:57:27
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KaitlynTaylorSings :
I wouldn't say I'm meaner, in fact I'm more at peace within so I'm more patient, tolerant etc as a result. I just do what I want now lol. I speak up, I say no, I say nothing... I'm not afraid to disappoint people anymore.
2026-11-02 18:46:49
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Chris H :
The bullseye of balance is always the hardest target to hit!
2026-10-27 01:55:46
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